Friday, December 11, 2009

Lashon harah:Permitted about wife?

Chofetz Chaim(Hilchos Lashon Harah 8:2):… it is prohibited to speak lashon harah about both men and women and there is no difference whether it is about his wife or any other woman. However many err in this matter due to our many sins and they think it is permitted to speak lashon harah about one’s wife and in‑laws before his own family. In fact this distinction has absolutely no significance in halacha and it is prohibited to speak lashon harah about her no matter how a she is related to you. In fact, just as with others, it is prohibited to speak lashon harah unless it is clearly needed for a future benefit and is not said just to degrade her. Furthermore even when it is permitted it is prohibited to mix in false statements. In fact the laws that govern the conditions for speaking lashon harah about one’s wife are the same as other people and are detailed later in section 10:13.

חפץ חיים (הלכות אסורי לשון הרע ח:ב): ... אסור לשון הרע הוא בין על איש או אשה, ואין חלוק (ד) בין אשתו לאשה אחרת, ורבים נכשלין בזה, בעונותינו הרבים, שהתר בעיניהם לספר גנות על אשתו ובית חותנו לפני אחיו ובית אביו, ומדינא אין שום נפקא מנה בזה, אם לא שהוא מכון בזה לתועלת על להבא ולא לגנותם, וגם לא יערב בדבריו שום שקר, וכל דינו הוא כפי מה שמבאר לקמן בכלל י' מסעיף י"ג ואילך, עין שם:

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