Thursday, May 24, 2018

DaasTorah on Sexuality to be published in few weeks

I had planned to forget about the time put into this work. but as a therapist

I see there is a real need for it

please tell me issues that you think are important to include

I will be publishing it on Amazon


  1. Halachic requirement of monasticism - which is anti-Torah

  2. this is a major point ln the literature

  3. that scandal is impossiblebf or a normal person to understand

  4. Wouldn't DT's energies br best spent on mainstream stuff? Berland is pretty fringe.

  5. Widespread ModOx adoptive practice of premarital relations among older singles. Seems contra-halakhic to me, but they actively justify it, or pretend to.

    Related: The apparent indifference or apathy among many Gen X & Millennials toward getting married. How much of a chiyyuv do women have to marry? At what point should an older single man actually be judged a "rasha," as it says in the standard halakhic codes he is?

    Related as well: Is the commonly heard counsel that basically any two decent, halakhically abiding folk can be married (that we're all interchangeable when the lights are off, to use the crude formulation) truly well defensible as THE Torah view of marriage?

  6. It is not impossible to understand - unless by "normal" you mean someone who has not read an academic history of the shabbetai zvi debacle. Read Reb Gershom Scholem's research on Shabetai, and you will understand perfectly how this can happen, and why it happens quite often. Or even the campaign by Rav Yaakov Emden will reveal that everything is possible.

  7. Judaism does not encourage the monastic ideal of celibacy.
    To the contrary, all of the Torah's Commandments are a means of sanctifying the physical world.

  8. The two famous Nazirites in the Bible made so by their parents; Samuel and Samson had issues of sexual attraction for the opposite sex. My theory is that God gave laws of Nazirite---not to drink wine, not to go near a dead body and not to cut hair ---to keep a person with strong sexual drives holy. Samson was easily taken in by wicked women.
    “The man shall be clear of guilt; but that woman shall suffer for her guilt. The Lord spoke to Moses, saying: Speak to the Israelites and say to them: If anyone, man or woman, explicitly utters a nazirite’s vow, to set himself apart for the Lord” (Numbers 5:31-6:2).
    במדבר פרק ו פסוק ב
    דבר אל בני ישראל ואמרת אלהם איש או אשה כי יפלא לנדר נדר נזיר להזיר ליקוק:
    רש"י במדבר פרשת נשא פרק ו פסוק ב
    כי יפלא - יפריש. למה נסמכה פרשת נזיר לפרשת סוטה,ג לומר לך שכל הרואה סוטהד בקלקולה יזיר עצמו מן היין, שהוא מביא לידי ניאוף
    Nazir 65a:
    “Mishnah. Samuel was a nazirite in the opinion of R. Nehorai, as it says, “And she made this vow: O Lord of Hosts, if You will look upon the suffering of Your maidservant and will remember me and not forget Your maidservant, and if You will grant Your maidservant a male child, I will dedicate him to the Lord for all the days of his life; and no razor shall ever touch his head” (1 Samuel 1:11). It says with reference to Samson, “For you are going to conceive and bear a son; let no razor touch his head, for the boy is to be a nazirite to God from the womb on. He shall be the first to deliver Israel from the Philistines” (Judges 13:5). It says with reference to Samuel, and [no] razor [morah]; just as morah in the case of Samson [is used of] a nazirite, so [we should say] morah in the case of Samuel [is used of] a nazirite. R. Jose objected: but has not morah reference to [fear of] a human being? R. Nehorai said to him: But does it not also say, Samuel replied, How can I go? If Saul hears of it, he will kill me. The Lord answered, Take a heifer with you, and say, I have come to sacrifice to the Lord” (1 Samuel 16:2)? [Which shows] that he was in fact afraid of a human being?”
    Issues of sexuality in Samuel’s time e.g.
    “Now Eli’s sons were scoundrels; they paid no heed to the Lord” (1 Samuel 2:12). “Now Eli was very old. When he heard all that his sons were doing to all Israel, and how they lay with the women who performed tasks at the entrance of the Tent of Meeting, he said to them, Why do you do such things? I get evil reports about you from the people on all hands. Don’t, my sons! It is no favorable report I hear the people of the Lord spreading about” (1 Samuel 2:22-24).
    Samson did control his fantasies with Philistine women, e.g.
    “Once Samson went down to Timnah; and while in Timnah, he noticed a girl among the Philistine women. On his return, he told his father and mother, I noticed one of the Philistine women in Timnah; please get her for me as a wife. His father and mother said to him, Is there no one among the daughters of your own kinsmen and among all our people, that you must go and take a wife from the uncircumcised Philistines? But Samson answered his father, Get me that one, for she is the one that pleases me” (Judges 14:1-3).

  9. Samson was easily taken in by wicked women. Why? Samson has superman strength and, looks like, above average sexual drive. What a wicked whore Delilah!
    Once Samson went to Gaza; there he met a whore and slept with her…After that, he fell in love with a woman in the Wadi Sorek, named Delilah….Finally, after she had nagged him and pressed him constantly, he was wearied to death and he confided everything to her. He said to her, No razor has ever touched my head, for I have been a nazirite to God since I was in my mother’s womb. If my hair were cut, my strength would leave me and I should become as weak as an ordinary man” (Judges 16:1, 4, 16-17).
    Delilah was faithful to the anti-Samson Philistines. This is much like the porn star today is faithful to the anti-Trump democrats. See

  10. The kedusha takanot of ger.
    The takanot themselves.
    Problems, halachic and psychological.
    And sociological
    Why were they adopted by skver and toldos Aaron?

  11. If the Gerrer takanos are discussed, then the discourse should include the Steipler's famous letter of critique, and the response from R' Nachum Rothstein, and a rebuttal.


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