Sunday, August 13, 2023
R Tam's Shunning: Tzitz Eliezar & Rav Yosef
Rav Eliashiv:Ma'os Alei - Get not required (1 174)
Rav Ovadiya Yosef: Forcing husband to divorce moredes
The rest of this section was translated by Shaul Shapira in the comments section
Chasan steps on Kallah's foot to be boss?
Shulchan HaEzer (Vol 2 Simon 8:24 page 50a): Another explanation for the breaking of the glass with the right foot is based on the Medrash Talpiot that if the Chasan is careful to place his right foot on the left foot of the kallah during the reciting of the 7 Berachos then it is a remedy to ensure that he rules over her all his life and she will obey him in all matters. And if he doesn’t succeed the opposite can happen that she will rule over him for all his life. And it has been suggested that this remedy be done away with. Therefore in order to avoid this and that neither the chasan or kallah should rule over the other the chasan was distracted with the breaking of the glass and consequently will not get involved in trying to step on his kallah’s foot. However look at the Segulos Yisroel (8:27), that some say that this remedy should be done after the chupah when he has gone to live with his kallah’s family that he should do this remedy and it works.
Rav Sternbuch:Forcing Husband to divorce Wife
Answer: It is an established halacha that if the wife refuses to live with her husband because she claims he is disgusting to her (ma'os alei) that it is impossible to force him to divorce her. This is explicitly stated by the Rema (E.H. 77:3). And even if it has been a number of years that they have separated and he is being spiteful and cruel in refusing to divorce her it is clearly stated by the Teshuvos haRosh (43:6) that if we force him to give the get there is the concern that it is a get me'usa and therefore invalid and it only serves to increase mamzerim. However while it is stated in the Rema (E.H. 154:21) that nidoi (cherem) is considered force and is prohibited, nevertheless he says it is permitted to decree that no Jew should do him a favor or should do business with him or even to circumcize his sons or to bury them - until he divorces his wife. But the Pischei Teshuva (E.H. 154:30) says there these shunnings (harhakos) are equivalent to nidoi (cherem) and are not permitted to be imposed today and the only recourse is to tell him that it is permitted to call him a sinner and he says it is best to be strict according to this opinion. This is agreed to by the Chazon Ish (E.H. 105:12). He concludes in the name of the Rashba that it is not permitted to humiliate the husband or to torment him - examine this well.
However it appears that what is prohibited is to humiliate him and to shun him in a manner similar to cherem - i.e, not to do business with him and not to do him a favor - and that is not done today. (Chazon Ish understands the Pischei Teshuva differently). But when he is not actively humiliated but that he is only not given honors for example he is notified that he will not receive an aliyah in his shul or any other shul and that he will not be allowed to be the shliach tzibor - then this is not like cherem at all even though it causes some humiliation. The only pressure permitted is that he should know that the community does not approve of his conduct of being cruel to his wife - but this is not called force at all.
Igros Moshe: Reading medical texts regarding sex
Rav Sternbuch: Calling police for Jewish owned house of prostitution
A misbehaving woman is ugly: Beauty only to serve G-d
Rachel showed modesty by betraying Yaakov?
Kidush HaShem:Mesiras nefesh which ignores consequences?
Chazon Ish: True moderation can only be achieved as failure to achieve perfection
Saturday, August 12, 2023
במשך שנים: המלמד ב'חיידר' חשוד שפגע בתלמידיו
https://www.bhol.co.il/news/1579552
ה'רבה', המתגורר בשכונת נווה יעקב בבירה, חשוד כי פגע בחומרה בכמה מתלמידיו במשך מספר שנים | חלק מהתלונות מדברות על תקיפות חמורות גם בתקופה האחרונה | בית המשפט האריך את מעצרו
Jerusalem rabbi arrested for sexual offenses against minors
https://www.jpost.com/breaking-news/article-754542
According to reports, the suspect is in his 50s and is a rabbi. His remand was extended while the investigations continue.
The rabbi has allegedly committed sexual offenses against minors in several different cases over a period of years.
POLITICS House Republicans are furious about Hunter Biden special counsel
https://www.cnbc.com/2023/08/11/house-republicans-furious-about-hunter-biden-special-counsel.html
After more than two years of demanding that the Justice Department appoint a special counsel to investigate Hunter Biden, Republicans in Congress finally got their wish on Friday. And they were furious.