Orthodox end silence on sex abuse

APP.Com

The boy was raped before he could take his weekly mikvah. Pinned from behind in the bathhouse where Orthodox Jews purify themselves with rain water, the 7-year-old never saw his attacker.

Now 29, Joseph Diangello no longer wears a yarmulke. He plays the drums and sports tattoos of heavy metal bands. He changed his name to one that sounds less Jewish. On Sept. 26, he stood in a synagogue for the first time in years, he said, before a sea of bearded men in black hats and women in customary wigs. For a brief moment, there was a sense of pride for the heritage he left behind.

"This is the first time I'm validated in the Orthodox community," he said into the microphone, according to an audio recording of the event posted on a Jewish blog site.[...]

Rav Eliashiv:His rabbinic authority & power

This link to Bhol.co.il is a video of Rav Eliashiv which has been of great interest in the chareidi world. It shows certain rabbis trying to explain to Rav Eliashiv what his authority and power is and his response to these assertions.

Battle heats up regarding "conversions"

Yated

The Knesset Immigration and Absorption Committee held a pitched debate following the refusal of the chief rabbis of several cities and marriage registrars to list the marriage of non-Jews who underwent fictitious conversions. Knesset members who took part in the meeting, the legal advisor for the Chief Rabbinate and a Justice Ministry representative announced that they would work to dismiss the rabbis and registrars and file charges against them....

According to Vaad Haolami LeInyonei Giyur [R' Nochum Eisenstein], "Just as government authorities are required to prevent fraud and deception, so too authorized rabbinical authorities are required to check conversion certificates to ensure they meet halachic requirements. If they find a conversion certificate was issued after a conversion candidate falsely declared he is prepared to accept Torah and mitzvas as required by halacha, the law stipulates that the conversion must be annulled ex post facto and the authorized authorities must enforce it just like any other fraudulent act. Therefore a committee of prominent dayonim should be formed to annul any conversion found to have been performed through deception."

9th of Kislev as a special time???

The following announcement was widely distributed. Does anyone know what this means. Even though they claim this happens every 7 years I have never heard of it before. See Bluke Kikar Shabbat
Text of Bris Menucha - first column   

Be'er Mayim Chaim
Foundation Stone

This coming Thursday (November 26th) the 9th of Kislev is a very special time where the gates of tefilot are wide open and Hashem is hearing, accepting and answering our prayers! Like the Ramban wrote: "the 9th year on the 9th month at the 9th hour of the day is a time of happiness and grants from Hashem". and you should know, adds the Chesed L'avraham, "this time is very appropriate for success and is a pipe to bring upon ourselves abundance and redemption."

This very special moment only comes around once every 7 years so we must get ready for it and take advantage of the opportunity granted to us from Hashem. Therefore it is important we take the time to pray and ask Hashem for all we need and desire in a clear and detailed way. In order to do so, we must prepare ourselves and put on paper what is the most important to us so that we can ask it clearly on this very special moment.

Abuse by Catholic Church in Dublin covered up

Fox News

The Roman Catholic Church in Dublin covered up decades of child abuse committed by priests because bishops wanted to protect the church's reputation at the expense of victims, an expert commission reported Thursday after a three-year probe into previously secret church records.

Abuse victims said they welcomed publication of the probe into the mishandling of 1975-2004 child-abuse cases in the Dublin Archdiocese, home to a quarter of Ireland's 4 million Catholics. But they said government and church leaders still had far to go to compensate for past wrongs.

The government said the investigation "shows clearly that a systemic, calculated perversion of power and trust was visited on helpless and innocent children in the archdiocese."[...]

Rav Sternbuch: Guidance of the Avos

Beis din can't violate right to counsel

Law.com

A Brooklyn judge has thrown out a rabbinical court's arbitration award, finding that the court's refusal to allow the claimant to select his own counsel violated New York law, notwithstanding the fact that the claimant participated in the proceeding without objection.

The decision constitutes the first time a New York court has addressed in a written opinion the issue of whether an arbitration panel can require that attorneys appearing before them must receive their approval.

It is also a rare reversal of an arbitration award, in which even mistakes of fact and misapplications of the law are insufficient grounds for reversal.

Here, Brooklyn Supreme Court Justice Martin Schneier ruled that the rabbinical tribunal's disqualification without explanation of plaintiff Joseph Kahan's attorney, coupled with the panel's insistence on designating Kahan's counsel, violated the CPLR's arbitration procedural requirements. [...]

http://www.nycourts.gov/reporter/3dseries/2009/2009_29465.htm

The shame of marrying first cousins

NYTimes

WHEN Kimberly Spring-Winters told her mother she was in love, she didn't expect a positive response — and she didn't get one.

"It's wrong, it's taboo, nobody does that," she recalled her mother saying.

But shortly after the conversation, Ms. Spring-Winters, 29, decided to marry the man she loved: her first cousin.

Shane Winters, 37, whom she now playfully refers to as her "cusband," proposed to her at a surprise birthday party in front of family and friends, and the two are now trying to have a baby. They are not concerned about genetic defects, Ms. Spring-Winters said, and their fertility doctor told them he saw no problem with having children.

The limits of rebuke

Would anyone like to explain what this gemora is saying? Is it saying that there is a limit to the mitzva of rebuke and that is when it causes the chastizer a certain amount of suffering. When that happens he is exempt from having to give further rebuke. Alternatively rebuke has no exemption. As long as it is possible to correct the person he is required to do it. But this gemora is saying that there is no mitzva of rebuke when the person isn't listening. The indication of this state is the point of dispute. Also problematic is the issue of his wife being beaten. The Maharsha says he doesn't understand it.


Erachin(16b): How far shall reproof be administered? Rav said until the person being rebuked beats him. Shmuel said until he is cursed. R’ Yochanon said until he is rebuked.This is a disagreement amongst Tanaim. R’ Eliezer said until he is beaten, R’ Yehoshua said until he is cursed and Ben Azai said until he is rebuked…. How much abuse should a person suffer before he changes his lodging? Rav said until he is beaten. Shmuel said until they throw his bundles over his shoulder. In the case where he himself is beaten, everyone agrees he should leave. Also in the case where they threw his bundles over his shoulder there is no dispute. The dispute is only when his wife is beaten. One view is that this is not a reason to move since he is not personally suffering. The other says he should move because there will inevitably be a quarrel. Why is there hesitation to move when he is suffering? Because when a person moves his reputation suffers and so does that of his former landlord.

However there is a contrary view which says that rebuke must be given no matter what the response is

Tanchuma(Tazria #9): G‑d told the angel Gavriel to go and mark with ink a letter tav on the foreheads of the tzadikim in order that the angels of destruction would not be able to kill them. Gavriel was also told to mark with blood a letter tav on the foreheads of the wicked so the angels of destruction will have the ability to kill them. However the prosecuting angel came to G‑d and asked how were the righteous different than the wicked that they should be saved? G‑d replied that the difference was that the tzadikim were perfectly righteous while the wicked were perfectly wicked. The prosecuting angels said that the tzadikim had the ability to give the wicked rebuke but they did not. G‑d replied He knew that even if the tzadikim had rebuked it would not have been accepted by the wicked. The prosecuting angel answered that while it was clear to G‑d that the protest would not be accepted but it was not obvious to the tzadikim. Therefore the tzadikim should have rebuked the wicked and suffered insults in order to sanctify G‑d Name and to endure beatings as we see from the prophets such as Yermiyahu and Yeshaya.

Kiruv for descendants of Anusim - permitted?

This issue has been discussed many times on this blog. I will simply renew my request for a single teshuva from a recognized gadol that explicity permits kiruv of the decendants of anusim.

West Coast wrote:

There is an orthodox shul in San Jose, CA, led by a YU musmach Rabbi Simcha Aaron Green.

The shul advertises they are open to Bnei Anusim. Is it permitted to do outreach to this group even though they require giyur?

The Jewish Press.
Friday, August 1, 2008. Page 47.
West Coast Happenings.
Jeanne Litvin, West Coast Editor.

Shul News: Recently Rabbi Simcha Green, formerly of Young Israel of Santa Barbara, became the spiritual leader of Congregation Ahavat Torah in San Jose, California, which became a Sephardic shul two years ago. Congregants come from Morocco, Syria, Iran, Romania and other communities – including Israel. This shul is an outreach center for Anusim (Conversos), previously referred to by Ashkenazim as Marranos. They are interested in hearing from people who include themselves in this category. On August 12- 18, they are hosting a Sephardic Heristage Week. Events are planned for both kids and adults. They include a Shabbos dinner for college students and singles, a Sephardic Food Cookoff, a talk on Jewish pirates during the Revolutionary War, and a symposium on the history of Conversos (to be held at San Jose State University)."

Justice:Harvard Prof Sandel #7

Chillul HaShem:Failure to punish that which is viewed as sinful by non-Jews/ Rosh

Rosh(17:8): [Translation Prof. Aaron Schreiber] Question: Let it be known to our teacher, may he be well, that here in Cordova a very serious incident took place. The ears of all those who hear of it become “singed.” A certain debased person was detained on charges by Gentiles. He settled with them by paying money. Some of his acquaintances later went to console him. He went out [to welcome them] and stood at the.’ Entrance of his yard. They calmed him in this matter, one of them saying, “Blessed is he who frees the imprisoned.” Nevertheless, he, turning upward, [to heaven], blasphemed and reviled his King and God . . .. About ten of the community notables, men of action, with  this honorable [man] Rabbi Judah, and local sages, with the city elders [decided] to do away with him. Learning of this, relatives of the guilty person went with bribes, it seems, to the great royal dignitary, Don Juan Manuel whom we received in our area as the procurator for his majesty, the king . . ..  This lord agreed that the guilty one should remain in his prison until the Responsum of my teacher will arrive instructing [us] what to do . . .. Response: May the delightful pious and charming notables accept [the blessing of] abundant peace! Your asking me concerning capital cases is rather strange. In all of the lands that I have heard of they do not try capital cases except in this land of Spain. When I came  here I was very astonished. How were they able to try capital cases without the Sanhedrin? They replied that it is by royal authority. The assembly [of judges] also judges in order to save [lives], since greater amounts of blood would have been spilled if they were tried by the gentiles. I permitted them to continue with their practice. However, I never agreed with them on any loss of life. Nevertheless, I see that all of you are of the opinion to remove this evil from your midst. He certainly did desecrate the name of heaven in public and it was already heard by the Gentiles, who view with seriousness anyone who speaks against their  religion and beliefs. The desecration would be increased if no act of vengeance would be taken against him. We do find that in order to sanctify the name of God they raised their hands against princes on behalf of proselytes [see 2 Sam. 21: 8-9] and let their [the princes’] corpses hang overnight. [We also find] that in order to check lawlessness they stoned to death a person who had ridden a horse on the Sabbath [see Talmud, Yebamot 90b]. It is also proper that God’s name should be sanctified by the loss of this wicked person, and so as you see fit. If I were present at your contemplations, my opinion would be to cut off the major portion of his tongue necessary for speech thereby silencing his lips. In  his way they would mete out [punishment] to him according to his deed. This is a well known vengeance which is witnessed daily. You, however, do according to what seems proper in your eyes. I do realize that your intentions are that God’s name should be sanctified.

Chillul HaShem:Failure to punish that which is viewed as sinful by non-Jews/ Rosh

שו"ת הרא"ש כלל יז סימן ח

יודע למורנו שיחיה, שאירע בכאן בקרטבא מאורע קשה עד מאוד, אשר כל שומעו תצלינה אזניו. והוא, שנבל אחד מהנבלים נחבש על תביעה שתבעוהו כותים, ונתפשר עמהם בממון משלו, והלכו קצת מיודעיו לנחמו, ויצא נצב פתח חצרו ודברו על לבו בענין זה, ואמר אחד מהם: ברוך מתיר אסורים; ובכל זה חרף וגדף וקלל במלכו ובאלהיו, ופנה למעלה. והדיינין וחשובי הקהל, כששמעו זה, נתקבצו והסכימו לעשות בו דין. ושגרו לתפסו ולא נמצא, ונשתדלו לקבל העדות שלא בפניו, כיון שברח, ולא מצאו אלא עד אחד, והאחרים נשמטו וכבשו עדותן. ועתה עמנו בעיר הנכבד והנעלה ר"י =רבי יהודה= שצ"ו בר' יצחק בן ואקר, וקנא לשם קנאה, ונשתדל בענין עד שבא לידו מכוער זה ותפסו בכח המלכות וחבשו בבית האסורים. וכמו כן גברה ידו על שאר העדים הנשמטין, והכריחם והשביעם וקבל עדותן כראוי, בענין גדוף זה. ואע"פ שהיה הגדוף בלשון ערב, כיון שנבל זה אינו יודע ספר ולא לשון קדש, הסכימה דעת נכבד זה עם הדיינין וחשובי הקהל שיחשב גידוף זה לנבזה זה, כיון ששם העצם בלשון ערב גדוף כמו שם העצם בלשון קדש ליודעיו, וכדי לעשות גדר בדבר, ולא יפרצו הרשעים קלי עולם להטיח דברים כלפי מעלה. והאיש הזה קשה ורע מעללים מעודו, ולא נמצא בעיר מי שילמד עליו זכות, ויש לו פרשים אלמים החזיקו ידו. והסכימו כמו עשרה מחשובי הקהל אנשי המעשה עם הנכבד ר' יהודה זה, ועם הלמדנים שיש בכאן ועם זקני העיר, לענשו. וכשהיו הנזכרין במעמד הסכמה זו, הלכו קרובי הרשע ושחדו בממון, לפי הנראה, ותבעו מן הטפסר הגדול דון גואן מנואל, שקבלנו במקומנו זה לאפטרופוס של המלך ירום הודו, להחמיץ דינו, ושגר אחר /אחד/ מפרשיו אלינו, שלא נגמר דינו עד אשר נשאל את פיו. והנכבד רבי יהודה זה, השתדל בענין בכל יכלתו, ופייס מן הטפסר שלא יעביר עלינו הדרך להוציא דיננו לפני כותים, והסכימה דעת השר הזה שישאר הרשע בתפיסתו עד אשר תבא תשובת מורי שיחי*ה, כדת מה לעשות. ועתה ברוך יי, אנו מחלין פני מורנו שיקנא לשם קנאה גדולה, וימהר שלוחנו זה קודם שיהפך לבב השר הזה, ונשכבה בבשתנו ותכסנו כלימתנו, ושלח לנו בביאור ובהוכחות דינו מאי והיאך. וכמו כן בחסדו יחזיק טובה ויחזק ידי הנכבד ר"י =רבי יהודה=, ועל מה שהשתדל בענין זה, ועל מה שישתדל לעשות, והש"י יהיה בעזרך מורי, ויאריך ימיו בטובה ונחת. וזו העתקת העדיות, שנתקבלו בלשון ערב בפני בית דין של שלשה, מקבלי עדותו בפני בית דין אחרים, ביום ראשון י"ו יום לחדש אדר, משנת אלף ושלש מאות ונ"ח למנין גוים שקורין אל צפר. העיד בפנינו, אנו חתומי מטה, רבי אברהם ברבי יצחק בן נתן הידוע באלשמש, שבכלל ה' ימים ראשונים מחדש ניומבר שמנינו בו למעלה, הלך זה העד עם רבי אברהם בן אלזוימי, לרבי יעקב ברבי יוסף ספאי*ה, לחצר אברהם ספאי*ה ברבי יעקב. ויצא להם אברהם סאפיא זה לפתח החצר, ונתנו לו שלום, ונשאו ונתנו ביניהם בענין חבישת אברהם ספאיה זה. ואמר לו זה העד: ברוך מתיר אסורים; ועל זה אמר אברהם ספאיה: זה מבורך בשמו; וזו הברכה אמרה על דרך מה שאמרו רז"ל ברכת השם. והמלה שאמרה אברהם סאפיא בזה הגידוף, היתה שאמר: יברך אללה, בלשון ערב, את פלוני; וזה הפלוני הוא השם שאין ראוי לזכרו בזה הענין. ועל זה אמר לו זה העד: ברוך דיין האמת, מה אתה אומר? ואמר אברהם סאפיה: אלולי שהתפללתי לו אני, לא היה נארע לי זה. ובזה היום הנזכר, העיד רבי אברהם ברבי יצחק נ"ע בן אלזוי*מי, אל רבי יעקב ברבי יוסף סאפיה, נוסח זו העדות הנזכר למעלה, שהעיד ר' אברהם בן נתן; אלא שהם לא נתאמת אצלם שאברהם סאפיה זה זכר בעת הגדוף בשמו.

תשובה: ישאו רוב שלומים, הנעימים והתמימים הנחמדים והנכבדים. הפלאתם לשאלני בדיני נפשות; כי בכל הארצות ששמעתי עליהם, אין דנין דיני נפשות, לולי פה בארץ ספרד. ותמהתי מאד בבאי הלום, איך היו דנין דיני נפשות בלא סנהדרין, ואמרו לי כי הורמנא דמלכא הוא. וגם העדה שופטים להציל, כי כמה דמים היו נשפכים יותר אם היו נדונים ע"י הערבים, והנחתיה להם כמנהגם, אבל מעולם לא הסכמתי עמהם על איבוד נפש. אמנם, אני רואה שדעת כלכם מסכמת לבער זה הרע מקרבכם. ובודאי חלל השם בפרהסיא, וכבר נשמע הדבר בין הישמעאלים, והם מחמירים מאד במדבר נגד דתם ואמונתם. וניתוסף החילול אם לא יעשו בו כדין בשביל מיגדר מילתא, וגם כן ראוי הוא שיתקדש השם בענש הרשע הזה. /בדפוס וניציאה שס"ז במקום הקטע: אם לא יעשו בו כדין וכו' עד סוף המשפט, כתוב: אם לא יעשו בו נקמה. ומצינו דמי שיתקדש שם שמים שלחו יד בבני מלכים בשביל גרים גרורים והלינו נבלתם על העץ וגם בשביל מיגדר מילתא הקלו למי שרכב על סוס בשבת וגם כן ראוי הוא שיתקדש השם באיבוד הרשע הזה. ועשו בו כטוב בעיניכם ואם הייתי בהסכמתכם דעתי היתה נוטה שיוציאו לשונו מפיו ויחתכו רוב המדבר שבלשונו ותאלמנה שפתותיו ובדבר הזה ימודו לו כפעלו וזאת היא נקמה מפורסמ' הנראית בכל יום לעינים./ ואתם עשו לפי הענין ככל אשר יראה טוב בעיניכם, כי ידעתי אשר כונתכם שיתקדש שם שמים; וחפץ השם יצלח בידכם. נאם הכותב אשר בן ה"ר יחיאל זצ"ל.

וכתב לרבי יהודה בן ואקר שצ"ו, בענין זה. ארך ימים ושנות חיים נעימים ורוב שלומים; שנים וימים יוסיפו לך ממרומים. כנפש הבא על החתום, הדורש שלומך ושבחך ומחזיק לך טובה, על אשר אני רואה אשר כל מעשיך לשם שמים, לבער הרע מקרבנו. גם הוגד לי שגם נתגלגל לזכות על ידך במקום אחר, ונעשית טובה גדולה לכל הקהל. ובדבר הזה תצלח בכל מפעליך, וימלא ה' כל משאלותיך לטובה. והנה בענין זה כתבתי דעתי לאותן הגדולים ששאלוני; ואתם עשו מה שיראה טוב בעיניכם. ואתה וכל אשר לך שלום, כנפש דורש שלומך וטובתך, אשר בן ה"ר יחיאל זצ"ל.

Jew from Kuwait

Aish Hatorah

Growing up in Kuwait, I had the best of everything. My father owned a successful construction company, and provided us five children with amenities like piano lessons, swimming, calligraphy and trips all over the world. Although we were Muslims like everyone else, we were totally secular and my father always aimed to shield us from religious people whom he described as crazies.

I grew up being told that Israelis and Jews were the lowest type of creature in existence, put on Earth only to kill us Arabs. In math class the teacher would say, "If one rocket killed X number of Jews, how many would six rockets kill?"

My father was rabidly anti-Israel. He was a product of Nasser's school of thought: secular from a Muslim point of view, yet deeply dedicated to the idea of pan-Arab unity. Israel, he believed, was an American proxy in the post-colonial Middle East.[...]