The following is a post written by one the participants to the discussion as an articulate and sensitive supporter of the Dodelson side. We have been carrying on off the blog discussion and he asked if I would post this Only on the condition that comments will be approved if they have solutions and not ad hominem attacks. which I agree.
I agree fully with what he has written.
Guest post by A Concerned Jew
This sad parsha causes people to behave irrationally. Most of you guys are just interested in belittling others & not, as Rabbi Eidenson calls for, finding a pragmatic solution. Name calling doesn't help anyone, & repeating things that one side says that the other side says are lies doesn't help anyone. How about you look at the two sides as presented by Rabbi Eidenson, or how you understand them to be, & instead of fighting out who is "right" or "wrong" try coming up with a solution that both sides would accept, even the side that is wrong(whichever side you think that is). Don't fight over who did or didn't do what when, that stage of this story is already in the rear view mirror.
Bottom line is, there is tangible suffering in this parsha now for everyone involved. There is the girl who wants to be free of a marriage that has been over for years (doesn't matter whose fault that was) & feels like her only recourse is to go very public with her story, & there is the boys family, where the father & uncle are now without employment & the grandfathers yeshiva is the focus of a PR campaign.
And last but not least, there is the child, who is being deprived of any stability in his young & formative years, as his parents are fighting with each other in a very public way, & both sides are using him as a bargaining chip to use against the other. There is no way anyone can justify the long term damage being done to this child- from either side.
I've asked Rabbi Eidenson to carefully moderate the comments in this guest post. There will be no he said/she said here, you can do that in other posts. No attacks, only proposals for a final agreement that can be palatable for Weiss & Dodelson.