Village Voice This much Abraham Rubin knew: He was lying, blindfolded and
handcuffed, in the back of a van. He could feel it winding through the
streets. He figured at least three men were in there with him, plus the
driver. There was the one who'd stepped out of nowhere and punched him
in the face as he walked down 56th Street in Brooklyn's Borough Park
neighborhood just a few minutes earlier. And two, maybe three others
who'd bull-rushed him and threw him into the van.
"We only want you to be a Jew," one of them said in Yiddish.
The van stopped. Rubin heard a door open and the men getting out.
"The rabbi is coming," one said. Then the sound of two or more men
climbing in beside him.[...]
In Borough Park, few to'anim were as prominent as Mendel Epstein.
Epstein, now 68, was known to many in the Orthodox Jewish community
as a devoted feminist. Stout and bald, with a bushy beard and a steely
demeanor, he specialized in divorces. Over three decades he built a
reputation for effectively representing women. Says one local rabbi, "He
presented himself as a champion for the underdog."
The women who came to Epstein often had a singular problem: Their husbands refused to grant them a get,
a document without which an Orthodox Jewish marriage cannot be
dissolved. The rule can be traced to the biblical Book of Deuteronomy,
and its sway remains stifling: Without a get, a woman who
remarries is considered adulterous. Any children fathered by her new
husband are illegitimate under Orthodox law and prohibited from marrying
within the faith.[...]
"The get is often the last vestige of control that an abusive man
has over his wife," says Rabbi Jeremy Stern, director of the
Organization for the Resolution of Agunot, a nonprofit advocacy group
for chained women. "Agunot are among the most vulnerable members of the Jewish community." [...]
Epstein publicly advocated for women's empowerment. In 1989 he published a book, A Woman's Guide to the Get Process, which advised wives on their religiously sanctioned options when seeking divorce. He wrote columns on the subject for the Jewish Press. Earlier this year, he codified his philosophy, unveiling "The Bill of Rights of a Jewish Wife" in the pages of the 5 Towns.
One right states, "A wife must be treated with respect and not be
abused. A woman in an abusive relationship has a right to seek a get."
Another: "A husband is obligated to honor and respect his wife's
parents." A third: "She is entitled to be supported by her husband." [...]
There were some exceptions. In 1997, for example, Neustein met with a
woman named Libby. She came from a poor family, Libby said, but her
husband was a wealthy, well-known member of the Orthodox community. He
was also abusive: When she was six months pregnant, Libby told Neustein,
he beat her until she miscarried. Desperate, Libby turned to Mendel
Epstein. The rabbi offered one solution: He'd have her husband give her
$10,000 if she left the country and promised to keep quiet.[...]
Meanwhile, in a one-room office in Crown Heights, a family therapist
named Monty Weinstein was hearing stories, too. Weinstein founded
Father's Rights Metro, a nonprofit group that assisted men in custody
disputes. Weinstein remembers the first time he heard Epstein's name: In
the mid-1980s, an Orthodox Jew approached him with a farfetched tale
about how he'd been jumped by thugs and beaten until he agreed to recite
the get oath.
"I was skeptical," Weinstein says. "In fact, I didn't believe it. I knew this guy must be a kook."
Several weeks later, though, another man came in with the same story.
Then another. Some told of beatings, others of threatening phone calls:
Grant the get or you'll be accused of child abuse; grant the get or you'll never see your kids again; grant the get,
or else. By the time Weinstein shuttered the nonprofit in 1995, he
says, he'd encountered more than a dozen men who'd been assaulted or
intimidated over a get. [...]
After years of operating with seeming impunity, Epstein himself
wasn't exactly secretive about his unconventional methods. In an
interview for the 2011 documentary Women Unchained, the rabbi
told of a desperate wife who came to him after her husband took off with
their child. "She heard I have an ability to do things outside the
normal parameters, outside normal channels," he said.
By the logic Epstein presented, he was a righteous vigilante, defending helpless women who had nowhere else to turn.
"He took advantage of their vulnerability," says Stern, adding that
Epstein's motivation was not about advancing women's rights, but about
enlarging his own bank account. "A gun for hire," he says.[...]
On November 16 and December 10, 1996, a "Rabbi Wieder" made calls to
Belsky. In a transcript of the conversations, translated from Yiddish to
English and later filed in court, Belsky describes what he knew about
Rubin: "We heard this person is such a rotten animal that there is no
equal on this earth." Belsky goes on to explain that he and other rabbis
held a tribunal and "the verdict was that there should be compulsion."
He stresses that he was not present at the beating but says, "I was in
agreement, after many weeks and weeks of consideration and discussing
the compulsion itself."
"If he deserves the beatings, then he deserves it," the man
masquerading as Wieder responds. "You felt that he deserves it, then
good."
"Yes, it's very hard on my heart," Belsky replies. "I don't keep a
record, but it was the first time which I have agreed to such a thing."
(Belsky, who denied in court having participated in the attack, did not
respond to interview requests from the Voice. Neither did his lawyer, Robert Rimberg.) [...]
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