A friend confided to me that she was concerned about her sister, who had just given birth to a little girl with Down Syndrome.
"I'm worried about her state of mind. She seems to be in denial, behaving as if the baby was normal. I'm wondering how she will cope when the reality hits."
I ventured that denial might be a necessary stage in the acceptance process.
"It's too big a thing to embrace all at once," I surmised, "and so she has gone into shock, like people do after a traumatic event. It shields her from the full force of what has happened, but that doesn't mean she isn't coming to terms with it inside." [...]