Igros Moshe (E.H.I #91). Question Is it permitted for someone to try and become engaged to a women who is engaged to another. Is this a case of Ani Hehapech becharara? Answer It is clear that if the first couple has not yet decided to finalize the engagement there is no problem. However if they have decided but are still lacking the customary kinyan there is a dispute among the poskim whether it is permitted. Once the kinyan is made there is a cherem against nullifying the engagement.
An interesting reminder that one can adhere to the law but still be a huge jerk.
ReplyDeleteThere are shaylos currently in Lakewood regarding a yeshiva bochur (or his shadchan and or parents) who offer a date to a young lady before her Shavuot permission to date. (Technically not regarding taking from another, but taking. Altogether berore her (supposed) time.à
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