Wednesday, January 9, 2019

What do you want from marriage - what does your spouse want and expect?

I am finishing my Daas TORAH Volume about marriage and sexuality

As Rav Lichtenstein has pointed out there is no unique picture of marriage found in Chazal

I am interested in hearing what you think is the ideal and whether your spouse shares this view

It is clear from the letters of the Chazon Ish, Steipler and Rav Wolbe - that expectations are often wrong and are a major contributor to shalom bayis issues

please send anonymous responses


  1. A family unit is a business. Both partners are contributors to the success of that business. It is their interest for the business to run smoothly and therefore ensuring that the other partner is satisfied and happily productive is a necessary priority.
    Thus for the man, the focus is on ensuring the wife's happiness and satisfaction. And the same for the wife: the focus is on ensuring her happiness and satisfaction.

  2. What is the mission of this new book? Is it another compendium of sources, or more than that?

  3. The foundation of a marriage, is the principle of teamwork.
    Man and woman must unite together as a team, forming a new family unit.
    E Pluribus Unum. Out of many, one.


  5. Don't fight with soldiers

  6. it is a compendium which highlights prime values

  7. Kalonymus AnonymusJanuary 10, 2019 at 4:01 PM

    Kelipos lefi chabad-

    Seems false . Some goyim are rashaim, but some are tzadikim. Same with Jews. Many non- Jews gave up their lives to save innocent people, especially in ww2.

    The Torah is not against the nations, only against idolatry.

    The notion of kelipos is a chassidic or mystical one, not rational. WHAT good is there in crack cocaine for example?

  8. What's more, if Torah learning is the real protection for the State, then it should provide protection from the draft as well. Instead of protesting, they should just be learning harder.

  9. Kalonymus AnonymusJanuary 10, 2019 at 4:20 PM

    No no, all miraculous claims are for verbal usage only. Nothing is practical or verifiable.

  10. Kalonymus AnonymusJanuary 10, 2019 at 5:34 PM

    Rabbi b. Blech says Herzl misunderstood antisemitism.

    Maybe so. Nevertheless, he still "understood" it better than anyone else, including most of the major rabbinic figures of his day . Look at Europe today, then compare to Israel, lehavdil.

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