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Rabbi Shmuel Z. Eidensohn |
update Feb 23: Added comments below - from Shana Aaronson - Magen's Social Services Coordinator - about relationship of Maaneh to - Magen
Yesterday Dr. Baruch Shulem and I went to visit the Maaneh Center in Beit Shemesh. The founder and chairman of the center is my nephew , Rabbi Shmuel Zalman Eidensohn. Aside from the center he also runs
the major tzedaka organization for the chareidi community in Beit Shemesh and is a recognized master educator supervising four schools - one of which is in Switzerland. He invited us to get to see the center which has been operating for several years and to discuss the approach of the Maaneh Center with himself and the director Rabbi Aryeh Levi.
When people think about the mishandling of child abuse - there are two names that automatically come to mind - the Catholic Church and Orthodox Jews. This has been reinforced in the last few weeks for all of us who have been following the horrifying news from Australia where the Royal Commission has revealed serious lapses of moral, legal and commonsense judgments of the Orthodox community leadership in dealing with child abuse. In addition to the nasty campaign against the Waks family for courageously fighting to protect children from abuse.
One solution is a call to carefully keep the laws of mandated reporting. Others add that it is important to eliminate the statute of limitations so that even 50 years after a teenage boy molests one of his friends - he can be tried and sent to jail even if it were a one time occurrence. There are calls for harsh punishment, public embarrassment in the media and even castration.
But others point out that a zero tolerance approach which relies solely on the justice system runs into the problem that the police often do nothing about the problem - either because no one will press charges or testify or they handle the matter in an insensitive manner or many times don't take the complaints seriously. Most of those charged are not convicted and even if convicted of serious and repeated abuse - get relatively light sentences of 5-8 years and then they are back in the community again until they are caught molesting another child. Thus relying on the criminal justice system doesn't provide a comprehensive high level of protection - but it is clearly better than nothing.
On the other hand we hear cries from the family of the victim not to harm their son/daughter by insisting on reporting the crime to the police and forcing their 10 year old to be destroyed through cross examination and the negative reputation that will be carried for the rest of his/her life. People ask why should the family - of not only the victim but of the perpetrator - have to suffer from the victim going to the police. As a result of this realistic fear of collateral damage, many cases of abuse are not reported and the perpetrator continues harming others. Thus protection for the victim or punishment for the perpetrator - often comes at great cost to innocent others.
As a result there are calls for the community to handle the problem internally - in particular that rabbis should investigate and prescribe solutions. Unfortunately rabbis are typically incompetent in this area or don't have the time to check out facts. In addition they have no legal powers to require testimony or enforce judgments. All this is has been frequently been reported on this blog. Besides incompetents there is another perhaps more serious problem. Associated with the community based approach we hear of victims who never recover from the betrayal when family and rabbis either don't believe them when they report that their teacher or uncle molested them or they are told to remain silent for the good of shidduchim or the community or yeshiva name.
Finally in addition to the problem of dealing with real crimes we have a serious problem of false accusations. We hear cases of teachers or neighbors whose lives have been destroyed by false accusations. We hear of communities that in their mortal fear of child abuse - misinterpret the words and behavior of children - make serious accusations against the innocent. It is critical that false accusations need to be avoided while genuine accusation need to lead to protection and healing.
So what is the solution. The secular laws and enforcement agency are severely limited in how and what they do. They are often insensitive or ignorant about working with victims and the community to maximize protection and punishment while minimizing collateral damage. This is especially true when the community of Orthodox Jews is basically an alien world for secular and non-Orthodox. But the secular bodies are the only ones who have the power to do anything. On the other hand members of the community including rabbis, teachers are much more aware of what is needed to minimize collateral damage - but lacking power often they push for covering up the crimes as the best way to avoid collateral damage which they often view as worse than the abuse itself. Additionally how the problem is handled for Satmar chassidim is not that which works for the Religious Zionists. Similarly what works for secular Jews will not work for recent olim from America or Russia. Thus a mechanical solution is not good. Rather each case needs an individualized solution - tailor made for it from the range of resources.
In a 75 minute frank discussion, we heard of how the center successfully works together with the police and government social agencies to carefully investigate all charges to ascertain not only if they are true but also precisely what has happened. Furthermore false accusations are not rare. But at the same time there is an active integration with the community leaders - daas Torah - as well was teachers and principals. This gives the families the security of knowing that they are doing the right thing and leads to greater cooperation with the secular authorities. This gives the police and legal system much greater flexibility in not only protecting the victim but also punishing and rehabilitating the perpetrators - with the minimum collateral damage to others.
In short we were impressed that the Center has genuinely succeeded in a creating a synergy of the different components - secular agencies, law enforcement and judicial bodies, rabbinical authorities, community, family - so each is able to contribute maximally in an integrated approach which is clearly a win-win approach. The Maaneh Center provides its services to all members of the Beit Shemesh community not just the chareidi population.
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David Morris |
From Shana Aaronson - Magen's Social Service Coordinator:- Magen
I'd like to offer some clarifications as to the difference between
Maane and Magen, at least as I understand them, which perhaps may be
helpful to readers who are unclear.
First, Maane is a therapeutic
treatment center for children, working primarily with victims of abuse,
but also with other childhood issues. On a personal level, for example,
when my 6 year old was struggling with some social anxiety, his
pediatrician recommended Maane as a resource where I might find a
suitable therapist. Magen, on the other hand, is a child protection
organization. We provide 1- educational events and resources, 2- a 24
hour hotline for inquiries and assistance, 3- short and long term
support and guidance for victims and survivors (which includes (but is
not limited to), as Rav Eidenson said, referrals for individual and
group therapy, support and guidance through the reporting process and
trial, as well as assistance in finding any other forms of assistance
they may need (Rabbanim, educational programs, other organizations etc)
4- management of cases of known or alleged perpetrators where a risk is
posed to the Jewish community (eg warning the community when a known
offender has moved into the neighborhood).
Second, Maane serves
the population of Bet Shemesh (and Ramat Bet Shemesh) exclusively, while
Magen caters to clients from all over Israel, who are seeking
information, resources, referrals or support in this area. As well,
Magen offers assistance to victims and survivors in situations where
there is an international component (ie the victim or perpetrator has
moved, or the actual abuse happened elsewhere) working with
organizations and authorities from other countries to provide needed
resources to survivors.
There is, in practice, very little overlap
between the functioning of the two organizations, with, I believe, much
room present for joint work. In my capacity as social services
coordinator for Magen, I have referred several clients to Maane for
therapy there has been professional consultations between the two
organizations as well.
As well, while there certainly appears to
be ideological differences between the two organizations where it comes
to reporting, I suspect that in practice, the differences are not quite
as vast. Magen, Maane, and all other responsible profssional agencies,
will follow the laws of chovat divuach (mandated reporting) wherever it
applies, including in the unfortunate cases where it goes against the
families wishes. Obviously Magen, and I assume Maane, do our best to
help make the process as smooth and painless for the family.
I
suspect that the cases where differences in reporting policies may be
more apparent are those where the mandated reporting laws do not apply. I
can only speak for Magen in saying that, in the event that a client
wishes to bring a formal complaint to the authorities, Magen will always
make every effort to support any victim through the reporting process
and trial, which as anyone involved with this field knows, can be long
and difficult. Of course, I cannot speak for Maane's policy in those
cases.
Another assumed difference is the hashkafic background of
each organizations respective clientele; many assume Magen caters
exclusively to the Dati-leumi community while Maane caters to the
Chareidi community. In practice, approximately 60% of Magen's clients
identify as Chareidi and as Rav Eideson mentioned above (and I admit I
was pleasantly surprised to hear-I was not previously aware) Maane
caters to clients from outside of the chareidi community as well.
On a
more mundane note, as a social services agency, Magen does not charge
for its services, while Maane does charge for its therapeutic counseling
services. There may be subsidies available, and I am not aware whether
or not they charge for consultation.[Maane does provide subsidies - the exact nature needs to be clarified with the staff DT]
On a personal level, as a
young mother raising children in Ramat Bet Shemesh, I am pleased to live
in a city that takes this issue seriously enough that there are not
one, but two (albeit very different) organizations equipped to address
the issue of child safety and protection. I hope that the above offers a
bit of clarification, with hopes that no reader will ever require the
services of either organization!