Just was consulted as to the best response to misbehavior including off the Derech children |If you pay attention to the Torah way to change behavior, it is clearly heavily in favor of harsh consequences. Death Penalty or beatings. On the other hand we see that parents are often advised to give unconditional love to children or students who deviate. At one time parents would drive away misbehaving children or children were told to cut contact with less than perfect parents. Which is the correct approach? However it seems that the approved approach keeps changing. So what to do? The answer is that both approaches work sometimes but not always both can succeed sometimes and both can result in really bad consequences.
First, who wrote this? Is it a Google translation?
ReplyDeleteThe two best approaches are (1) kill the first child who goes OTD as a warning to the rest or (2) Teach love of God, enjoy doing Jewish at home so children get a good feeling from it, don't force anything but encourage and show love if not acceptance of unacceptable behaviour.
Just saying that (1) takes less time and effort.
Ayin tahat ayin is also in the Torah, but we take it not too literally
DeleteSmallish gullible people vacillate from side to side with the EC wind & acc. to the latest contemporary bluster from therapists.Sadly later on their children can't figure out where they got left behind. Subsequently the lovely system is there to convince them that their mediocre reality was pre-ordained from on High
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