It was truly an amazing conference. I think everyone was inspired       and encouraged to do more. The conference was clearly a remarkable       achievement.
       
       Richard B. Gartner, Ph.D. Training and Supervising         Analyst, Faculty, and Founding Director of Sexual Abuse Service,         William Alanson White Institute for Psychiatry, Psychoanalysis,         and Psychology, New York City                      Yesterday's conference, "Understanding and         Treating Sexual Abuse in the Orthodox Jewish World," was a         groundbreaking, extraordinary event. In a short time, the Sexual         Abuse Service, headed by Conference Chair and Service Director         Julie Marcuse and Conference Co-chair Alison Feit, put together         a very full, tightly-run conference that included messages from         two prominent rabbis (Daniel Eidensohn and Yosef Blau) ;         personal statements from three survivors of sexual abuse;         keynotes by Julie, Ali, and myself; small groups led by various         members of the Service; further panel papers by Abby Stein,         Julie, and Ernesto Mujica, and a brief summing up by Alan         Slomowitz.
         
         The audience was rapt and in almost all cases very open to what         psychoanalysis has to offer the Orthodox community. One person         said to me she was astonished to come to a meeting where         psychoanalysts listened rather than judged the community and         where so much helpful information was offered.  The conference         was sold out and there were probably as many turned away as         attended. The conference was aimed both at mental health         practitioners in the community as well as what we call (thanks         to Jill Bellinson's input) first responders in the Red Cross         model (those to whom sexual abuse is first disclosed but who         have had no training in how to deal with such a difficult         subject with its multi-layered meanings in the Orthodox         community).  The audience was clearly wanting more, and there         have been some feelers already to have speakers come out to the         community, as well as a clear desire for more offerings from the         Institute.
         
         Jill Bellinson did an absolutely knock-out job at organizing the         details, rounding up and instructing the volunteers, and at         every stage of the planning being a voice of clarity and reason         as difficult choices were made.  Donations made it possible for         us to offer glatt kosher food to the attendees, who in many         cases made it clear they felt surprisingly comfortable in our         milieu. Sondra Wilk as always was superb at making things         happen.
         
         In addition to all I have named, I want to recognize the efforts         and contributions of people who led small groups, manned the         safe room, participated in the planning (I am sure I will leave         out some names, and I apologize to anyone I have forgotten):         Gail Harris, Daniel Gensler, Sharon Kofman, Seth Aronson, Evelyn         Hartman, and Rivki Jungreis; Shloimie (Stephen) Zimmermann, who         was a willing and helpful (as well as brave) supervisee in a         live consultation meeting with me; and a group of  wonderful         volunteers.
         
         It was a day about which the Sexual Abuse Service and the         Institute can be very proud.
       
     
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     Dr. Asher Lipner          
        All I can add as an advocate for abuse         prevention and treatment in the Orthodox community is that         everyone I spoke to was equally as impressed as Dr. Gartner.  I         too would like to take this opportunity to make the following         remarks of thanks:
         
         Thanks to Dr. Gartner for his remarks, his enlightening         supervision, and his grasping the need and readiness of our         community to learn from his wisdom. 
         Thanks to Dr. Julie Marcuse whose brainchild this was and who         put her all into seeing it through.
         Thanks to the awesome courageous survivors Esther Malka, Mark         and Joel, who never disappoint and who need to keep taking their         show on the road.  Next stop Oprah Winfrey?  
         Thanks to Dr. Alison Feit for a brilliant overview of what we         have all been learning over years about how and why abuse is         allowed to occur in our community and the psychoanalytic         explanation for the human behaviors involved.
         Thanks to Dr. Shloimie Zimmerman for a "massive" case         presentation that left all of us emotionally moved and more         sensitive to the experiential real life challenge of doing         clinical work with survivors.
         Thanks to Dr. Mujica for being so cool, both as a presenter and         as a support for the survivors who spoke.
         Thanks to Rabbi Eidensohn for the Kiddush Hashem of showing that         the Torah can be and should be the most powerful tool we can         utilize to prevent and help survivors heal.
         Thanks to Rabbi Blau for modeling what a rabbi should be in this         day and age.
         Thanks to Dr. Nosson Solomon, Past President and one of the         cofounders of Nefesh for attending and participating.
         Thanks to Rivkie Yungries, currently of Nefesh for publicizing         the event on the Nefesh listserve.
         Thanks to Sondra Wilk for helping my friend and I and I don't         know who else, in "the safe room," where we had a shared moment         of survivor support. 
         
         Thanks to all of us for showing all of us that we care, and we         are starting to get it!!!