Is a helpful wfe earned or simply good luck?

   Yevamos (63a) R. Eleazar further stated: What is the meaning of the Scriptural text, I will make him a help meet for him?6 If he was worthy she is a help to him;7 if he was not worthy she is against him.8 Others say: R. Eleazar pointed out a contradiction: It is written kenegedo9 but we read kenegedo!10 — If he was worthy she is meet for him;10 if he was not worthy she chastises him.9



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זכה - אם יש לו מזל טוב תאות לבו נתת לו, שבעוד שהוא מתאוה באה לו תאותו עד שלא ישאלנה.
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