Nesivos Shalom (letter after 3 months translation by Dr. Benny Brown) The
early chasidim of the previous generation, whom we were privileged to witness,
had shed their sweat and blood in the struggle against permitted pleasures, in
just the same way as those who struggle to refrain from the most strictly
prohibited acts. They struggled more to resist a commandment that pleasures the
body than they struggled to resist a transgression that gives the body no
pleasure at all. The Sages had said: “He should love his wife as his own flesh,”
and. the early chasidim interpreted it - but
not as his own soul. When someone once said to Rabbi Avraham the Angel, who
practiced strict sexual abstinence, that by this he was bound to lose his share
in the World to Come, he replied: “The World to Come is worth losing in order
to avoid the pleasures of This World.” Some of them would weep copiously every leil
tevilah. They would repent the required [and permitted sexual act] just as one
repents a grave sin, lest their bodies experience physical pleasure. They
feared the kelipah [evil force] of permission more than the kelipah of
prohibition. [...] and our Rebbe [the Beys Avrom], of blessed memory, told us
that Rav Mikhl Sofer of Kobrin did not realize that his wife was lame even
after three years of marriage. Such was their holiness. And we—what are we by
comparison, whose hearts are weak and whose brains are dull?! For when the
heart and the brains fail to function, the liver, where lust dwells, takes hold
of the body. The boiling, impure blood overflows, and the evil inclination
burns like fire, even among those who are engaged in Torah study and mitzvos all
day long
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Netziv (Bereishis 30:23)Rachel called the baby Yosef because
she said G-d stopped her degradation According to the simple meaning all
creature that have not accomplished their purpose are lacking and thus degraded
in particular a childless woman. Consequently all intercourse with them that
doesn’t result in children but is done for pleasure is also a
degradation.