Attachment Theory: How Your Childhood Shaped You

Trump is powerless as his legal fate spins out of his control

cnn

President Donald Trump may no longer control his fate, a plight that helps explain his increasingly volcanic Twitter eruptions.

Trump's persona -- in politics, business and life -- relies on his self-image as the guy who calls the shots, closes deals and forces others to react to the shock moves of a master narrative weaver.

But as a legal web closes around the President, he's in a far weaker position than he would like, a situation especially underlined by the bombshell revelations that White House counsel Donald McGahn has spent 30 hours in interviews with special counsel Robert Mueller.

FORMER FOX NEWS ANALYST SAYS NETWORK 'PROSTITUTES' FOR TRUMP'S AGENDA

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A retired U.S. Army Lietenant Colonel and former Fox News analyst said employees at the cable news network have become "prostitutes" for President Donald Trump's Washington agenda. 

Update: Fox News issued a statement regarding Peters' comments. "Ralph Peters is entitled to his opinion despite the fact that he’s choosing to use it as a weapon in order to gain attention."

Speaking with CNN's Brian Stelter Sunday, Ralph Peters said Trump "does not respect our system of government" and cherry-picks parts of the Constitution "from which he can choose the most electable items." The retired U.S. Army Lt. Colonel repeatedly criticized Trump as "distinctly un-American" and beholden to Russian President Vladimir Putin. Earlier this year, Peters left Fox News for "assaulting the Constitution." 

How the Catholic Church Keeps Surviving Abuse Scandals

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The news of sex scandal in Pennsylvania is truly sickening. Thousands of victims, hundreds of predatory priests, and what can only be described as a systematic conspiracy to conceal the crimes of those accused. All of which raises the question: How can the Catholic Church survive such a scandal? In fact, in light of previous revelations about sex abuse, how has the church survived so far?

Indian-American Doctor Convicted For Raping Patient Won't Serve Jail Time

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Indian-American Doctor Convicted For Raping Patient Won't Serve Jail Time

Jurors convicted Shafeeq Sheikh of second-degree sexual assault after a trial that ended this past week.

HOUSTON: An Indian-American doctor from Texas, who was convicted of raping a sedated patient in a hospital, will not serve prison time and, instead, will spend 10 years of probation.

Jurors convicted Shafeeq Sheikh, 46, a former physician at the Baylor College of Medicine, of second-degree sexual assault after a trial that ended this past week.

The crime is punishable by up 20 years in prison, but the Texas jury sentenced Sheikh to 10 years of probation on Friday.

Sheikh will have to register as a sex offender. Unlike most states and the federal government, Texas grants juries the power to set criminal punishments.

The punishment has surprised defense attorneys, disappointed law enforcement and raised concerns from a victims advocacy group, according to media reports.

The jurors had recommended the sentencing, to which visiting Senior District Judge Terry L Flenniken was required to follow by law, according to local media report.

Sheikh was working in night shift at Houston's Ben Taub Hospital in 2013 when a woman was admitted for shortness of breath and wheezing. She was in the hospital overnight and sedated when Sheikh came to her room several times during the night and sexually assaulted her.

The woman said she attempted to get help from a nurse, but the call button would not work.

DNA evidence collected from a rape kit matched the DNA sample of the guilty doctor's cheek swab. But it took two years for charges to be filed against Sheikh.

Architect of bin Laden raid issues stunning rebuke of Trump

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Retired Adm. William McRaven, the man who oversaw the 2011 Navy SEAL raid that killed Osama bin Laden, issued a stunning rebuke of President Donald Trump's decision to revoke the security clearance of former CIA Director John Brennan on Thursday, defending the former spy chief as "one of the finest public servants I have ever known."

In an op-ed published by the Washington Post, McRaven, a former Navy SEAL who led US Joint Special Operations Command from 2011 to 2014, not only called Brennan "a man of unparalleled integrity," but volunteered to have his own security clearance revoked in an act of solidarity.

"Few Americans have done more to protect this country than John. He is a man of unparalleled integrity, whose honesty and character have never been in question, except by those who don't know him," McRaven wrote.

"Therefore, I would consider it an honor if you would revoke my security clearance as well, so I can add my name to the list of men and women who have spoken up against your presidency," he added.

His comments come just one day after Trump announced his decision to revoke Brennan's security clearance, marking an unprecedented use of a president's authority over the classification system to strike back at one of his prominent critics.

"This action is part of a broader effort by Mr. Trump to suppress freedom of speech & punish critics. It should gravely worry all Americans, including intelligence professionals, about the cost of speaking out. My principles are worth far more than clearances. I will not relent," Brennan tweeted after the announcement.

McRaven, who resigned as chancellor of the University of Texas in Austin earlier this year, is widely respected among the tens of thousands of active and retired special operators and his message will likely resonate within that community.

"Through your actions, you have embarrassed us in the eyes of our children, humiliated us on the world stage and, worst of all, divided us as a nation," McRaven said of Trump.

New York City Asks State to Help Investigate Yeshivas

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The New York City Department of Education has asked the New York State Education Department for help investigating 39 Orthodox Jewish private schools that allegedly provide inadequate instruction in subjects mandated by state law.

The city has been investigating the schools, known as yeshivas, since 2015, when a group of parents, former students and former teachers filed a letter of complaint. The advocates say the schools provide little, if any, education in English, math, science, history and other secular subjects.  

In a letter to the state sent on Wednesday, New York City schools Chancellor Richard Carranza said 15 schools allowed investigators to visit and expressed interest in expanding secular education to meet state requirements for nonpublic schools. But 15 of the schools did not allow the city to visit, observe classes or oversee curriculum changes as part of the investigation over three years. However, after the letter was sent, eight of the remaining schools said they would be open to visits. 

Ben Chapman, an education reporter for the New York Daily News, says advocates view Carranza's approach to the yeshivas as more transparent than that of his predecessor, former New York City schools Chancellor Carmen Farina.

Daas Torah whom to ask for help

this post was inspired by a critical letter in Binah magazine and the apologetic response both sides seemingly in agreement that the only  valid therapeutic advise must be from a gadol or be based on Torah sources

IT SIMPLY  AIN'T SO

AS RAV Moshe has said talmidei chachomim dont have superior knowledge except regarding TORAH itself

DAAS TORAH BLOG

A few years ago there was a widespread attack on going to psychologists

It was later revealed that the real issue was going to a therapist without first getting a rabbi's recommendation

EVEN THOUGH ALL KNOWLEDGE IS CONTAINED IN THE TORAH but R Freifeld told me we are not on the level to get it out

Rav Moshe poskened not to read secular marriage manuals until just immediately before the wedding

Rav Shlomo Zalman Auerbach advised a young couple not to get married without setting aside enough money for 20 years of marriage therapy

 NOT JUST 

THIS APPLIES TO ALL ISSUES NOT JUST THERAPY INCLUDING EDUCATION AND MEDICAL ISSUES AS WELL AS FINANCIAL ONES

הלכות נושרים: דעת תורה ממרן ראש הישיבה רב גרשון אדלשטיין שליט"א (עברית)

trump fake news should not be censored as long as it reflects his views - Trump echoes conservative claims that social media companies censor conservatives

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Conservatives on the internet have spent years claiming social media companies discriminate against them. On Saturday, those accusations reached the White House.

President Donald Trump on Saturday tweeted a series of comments

accusing social media companies of
"totally discriminating against Republican/Conservative voices"
 but stopped short of calling for government intervention on the matter.

Trump did not name any companies specifically, but did claim
 that CNN and MSNBC spread "Fake News." MSNBC is part of NBC News.

Trump's tweets come after Facebook, Google and Apple 
have each taken steps to remove conspiracy theorist Alex Jones and his Infowars media outlet from its platforms. Twitter also suspended
 Jones for a week. Jones is best known for spreading the unfounded 
theory that the elementary school massacre at Sandy Hook was a hoax,
 a claim that has made him the target of civil lawsuits.

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But he does have a solution. Sort of. And it involves both sides.

Trump tweeted that “too many voices are being destroyed, some good and some bad, and that cannot be allowed to happen.” So, he added: “Let everybody participate, good & bad, and we will all just have to figure it out!”

John Brennan: President Trump’s Claims of No Collusion Are Hogwash

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When I warned Mr. Bortnikov that Russian interference in our election was intolerable and would roil United States-Russia relations for many years, he denied Russian involvement in any election, in America or elsewhere, with a feigned sincerity that I had heard many times before. President Vladimir Putin of Russia reiterated those denials numerous times over the past two years, often to Donald Trump’s seeming approval.

Russian denials are, in a word, hogwash.

Before, during and after its now infamous meddling in our last presidential election, Russia practiced the art of shaping political events abroad through its well-honed active measures program, which employs an array of technical capabilities, information operations and old-fashioned human intelligence spycraft. Electoral politics in Western democracies presents an especially inviting target, as a variety of politicians, political parties, media outlets, think tanks and influencers are readily manipulated, wittingly and unwittingly, or even bought outright by Russian intelligence operatives. The very freedoms and liberties that liberal Western democracies cherish and that autocracies fear have been exploited by Russian intelligence services not only to collect sensitive information but also to distribute propaganda and disinformation, increasingly via the growing number of social media platforms.

Having worked closely with the F.B.I. over many years on counterintelligence investigations, I was well aware of Russia’s ability to work surreptitiously within the United States, cultivating relationships with individuals who wield actual or potential power. Like Mr. Bortnikov, these Russian operatives and agents are well trained in the art of deception. They troll political, business and cultural waters in search of gullible or unprincipled individuals who become pliant in the hands of their Russian puppet masters. Too often, those puppets are found.

In my many conversations with James Comey, the F.B.I. director, in the summer of 2016, we talked about the potential for American citizens, involved in partisan politics or not, to be pawns in Russian hands. We knew that Russian intelligence services would do all they could to achieve their objectives, which the United States intelligence community publicly assessed a few short months later were to undermine public faith in the American democratic process, harm the electability of the Democratic candidate, Hillary Clinton, and show preference for Mr. Trump. We also publicly assessed that Mr. Putin’s intelligence services were following his orders. Director Comey and I, along with the director of the National Security Agency, Adm. Michael Rogers, pledged that our agencies would share, as appropriate, whatever information was collected, especially considering the proven ability of Russian intelligence services to suborn United States citizens.

The already challenging work of the American intelligence and law enforcement communities was made more difficult in late July 2016, however, when Mr. Trump, then a presidential candidate, publicly called upon Russia to find the missing emails of Mrs. Clinton. By issuing such a statement, Mr. Trump was not only encouraging a foreign nation to collect intelligence against a United States citizen, but also openly authorizing his followers to work with our primary global adversary against his political opponent

Commentary: Newspapers don't help themselves by coordinating against Trump

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If you are a Trump voter who thinks that much of the press is reflexively hostile to the president, 300 of America's leading newspapers want you to know that you might be on to something.

In a self-defeating act of journalistic groupthink, America's editorial pages launched a coordinated protest against President Trump on Thursday, all running negative editorials attacking the president over his #FakeNews rhetoric.

The Boston Globe, who organized the effort, calls it "educating readers" about "an attack on the First Amendment." But to the average American, seeing an editorial in their local paper trashing Trump is called "A day that ends in 'y.'"

Seriously—Who's going to be persuaded by this effort, or be impressed that a few hundred newspapers can hum the same tune? Who's even going to notice?

Well, the newspapers will notice, of course. There's a run on pain pills from all the muscle injuries inflicted by self-indulgent media back-patting. "A Free Press Needs You," a New York Times editorial headline blared on Wednesday, praising themselves for "answering the call" of the Boston Globe and courageously facing the threat that is Donald Trump.

#FakeNews? That phrase is "dangerous to the lifeblood of democracy," the Times intoned. "And calling journalists the 'enemy of the people' is dangerous, period."  

And to prove we aren't the enemy, we in the media are going to band together and go after the guy who keeps saying we are! The same guy we attack every day, seemingly no matter what he does, and in ways we've never attacked a politician before!

That might be an unfair characterization, but it's easy to understand why Trump supporters would see it that way. They remember the Obama administration spying on reporters. They remember Obama White House attempts to have Fox News de-legitimized and removed from traditional media opportunities over its viewpoint. President Obama called out the network by name repeatedly.

How many "Days Of Editorial Rage" did that inspire?

The real danger to the media isn't Trump's attacks—it's his departure. Trump, and the hatred he inspires among the left-of-center, media-consuming public, is a massive fiscal boon to these newspapers.  

The New York Times picked up 41,000 subscribers in just the first week after Trump was elected. They made more that $1 billion in subscription revenue in 2017. The impact of Trump on media revenue has been so huge they call it the "Trump Bump."

Yes, yes, Trump's attacks on the media are over-the-top and wrongheaded. Yes, in some small way he's undermining the credibility of legitimate journalism.  

But here's the headline the Boston Globe missed: The media had largely done that to themselves before he showed up. Believe it or not, the percentage of Americans who say they have a "great deal" of trust in newspapers is actually up since Trump took office. 

Or rather it's up from 8 percent to 12 percent. The percentage of Americans with a great deal or quite a lot of trust in newspapers hasn't hit 30 percent since 2006, according to Gallup. The percent that have little or no trust in them whatsoever hasn't been below 30 percent since 2008.

So what's the point of the editorial-page protest? This avalanche of invective won't move Trump supporters. The Globe, Times, Chronicle, etc. made it clear months ago that these readers weren't valuable to them. And how much self-indulgent virtue signaling can the media do before it loses its charm?

Rav STERNBUCH

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אמרו חז"ל, כינוס הצדיקים הנאה להם והנאה לעולם, ראב"ד ירושלים הגר"מ שטרנבוך שנפש בימי בין הזמנים בנתניה, זכה באחד הימים לביקור מהאדמו"ר מצאנז המנהיג את קהילתו הרמה בקרית צאנז בעיר. ל'בחדרי חרדים' הגיעו תמלילים משיחתם.

הראב"ד והאדמו"ר שוחחו משך דקות ארוכות, תחילה דיברו על נושא כבודם של רבנים. הראב"ד סיפר לאדמו"ר כי "היה פעם איזה דין תורה, וישבו שם הגאון רבי חיים עוזר, הגאון מראגטשוב והגאון רבי חיים מבריסק, ורצו לקרוא לאדמו"ר מלובאוויטש להעיד שם, והעירו שם שאין זה לפי כבודו של האדמו"ר מלובאוויטש לשמש כעד, והגר"ח מבריסק רצה לדון אם חייבים בכבודו מדין ת"ח או לא, אולם הגאון מראגטשוב קרא בקול רם ואמר, לרבי יש דין של נשיא וצריכים לכבדו, ונשיא אינו יכול למחול על כבודו...".

בהמשך, ציין הראב"ד לשבח את פעולותיו הגדולים של האדמו"ר השפע חיים מצאנז זי"ע, ש"בהקמת מקום תורה למען הכלל, הוא זכה מן הצד גם לעצמו, שהרי בגמ' בכתובות מבואר שהיו נוהגים לשלוח את המתים של שאר ארצות הקרובים לבבל כדי ליקבר בבבל, וביאר שם רש"י בטעם הדבר - 'מתים של שאר ארצות קוברים לבבל שיש שם זכות תורה', והיינו שזהו טוב לנפטרים שהם נמצאים בסמוך למקום תורה, וא"כ הרבי זי"ע זכה בטובה גדולה אף לעצמו על ידי שהעמיד את נתניה למקום תורה, שמקום מנוחתו נמצאת במקום טוב – במקום תורה".

"כאן בקרית צאנז זהו 'כשושנה בין החוחים'... כערבה במדבר, אני עוד זוכר איך העיר נתניה נראית עוד מהשנים ההם", הוסיף הראב"ד.

האדמו"ר, השיב ואמר, כי "המצב בעיר נתניה הרבה יותר טוב מפעם" וסיפר למארחו, כי כיום "יש מכל המינים, ישנם בנתניה אלפי יהודים יראים, בעלי תשובה, ישנם כמה ישיבות של ספרדים. ושוחחו מושכות על מעלת גודל התשובה של תינוקות שנשבו".

"נתניה היתה עיר חילונית מאד, כמו תל אביב", הזכיר בנו הגאון רבי אשר שטרנבוך, שנכח בביקור, אולם "ב"ה שהיום יש כאן גם ערליכע אידן. ופעם פחדו להסתובב בחוץ".

האדמו"ר השיב על כך ואמר כי "וודאי עדיין אינו עולם התיקון, ועוד מצפים לאליהו הנביא אשר ישיב לב אבות על בנים ולב בנים על אבותם, אבל המצב הוטב לעומת מה שהיה פעם, וישנם כאן אלפים שמבקשים רק חינוך חרדי".

guest post DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILY What is 'Mishpacha' is Doing to Yours?

THIS IS A GUEST POST I THINK THERE IS MORE DANGER FROM THE IMPLICATIONS OF THEIR ADS THAN FROM THEIR MANY INTERESTING WELL WRITTEN ARTICLES 

THIS IS THEIR RESPONCE

Mishpacha Magazine revealed the depth of its soul this week.

No, not by printing an envelope pushing article which legitimized attitudes that until yesterday were intuitively understood by every cheder yingel to have no place in our framework and hashkafa. That's the run of the mill mezzanine level of its soul; par for the course. Just Mishpacha being Mishpacha, you might say. After all, for what does the publication exist if not to help "Chareidi society come into its own" {their words) by broadening our scope culturally?

And so we've long since come to recognize {and, sadly, accept) the standard procedure: Push just a weensy bit past the normative limits of hashkafic acceptability. Wait for feedback. Print letter from Bora Park housewife decrying your indiscretion in exposing us to this horrible idea, alongside one from a Tzfas "mashpia" applauding your courage for finally airing this very important issue {or vice versa), so that all possible viewpoints can be properly validated. Now you see sheifeleh, did that really hurt as much as you thought it would? Ok, next level. Repeat steps one through four.

In this way we've been trained to think it somehow a good idea to raise our children to view the frum community through the prism of substance abuse, marital strife, emotional instability, and the myriad other issues-that-for-far-too-long-have-been-swept-under-the-carpet. {Remember when the first work of this genre was being serialized - I think it was called Hearts of Gold or something like that - and we all wondered what on earth was going on? My, weren't we quaint back then). And we've dutifully learned to make room in our weltanschauung for some old style feminism, new style Zionism, and a general enlightened atmosphere of openness and acceptance of all. The most freakish of "entertainers" are no longer fringe oddballs, but rather mainstream representatives of our culture. Successful entrepreneurs are no longer just Yidden looking to earn an honest living, but rather icons to be featured, so our chidren can read wistfully about their accomplishments in the same way that we used to read about Tzaddikim and anshei maiseh. Broaden their horizons, my boy. Through careful priming, enthusiastic articles on such things as the "Chareidi modern arts festival" {no kidding) were able to go down without so much as a burp.

So why was this time in particular so revealing? Well, it began with a slight miscalculation. It's almost sad to watch an old master get a little rusty- in this business hairsbreadth precision is everything. The editors apparently assessed that we were ready for vegan ism, and they missed it by that much. Should've started us off slow - maybe along the lines of an interview with some Rebbitzin who wrote a book about how now, b'yimos hamashiach, love and harmony between all the different levels of creatures is paramount. Probably could've worked us up to vegan tolerance in two or three small steps, but instead they pushed the whole thing out at once and there was communal indigestion.

That in itself is nothing terrible - heaven knows they've gotten through far worse. The scandal, goes the adage, is not in the crime but in the cover up. And it was in responding to the barrage of criticism that the publication inadvertently gave us a glimpse into the deepest depths of how they view the world of ideas.

In light of the backlash, the editors took on themselves to explain to us what it is that's really got our goat. Let not yourself be fooled into thinking that your discomfort comes from any sort of objective Yiddisheh worldview. It's not the age old Torah hashkafa of a natural world created with a function and purpose - i.e. as a necessary accessory for Man in his existential quest for elevation -that's got you ticking. It's not the rejection of three thousand years of mesorah and values in favor of the latest uppity fad. Rather, they tell us, it's merely American cultural associations of veganism with far left PETA loonies that caused the kickback.

You see, in the Mishpacha universe there is no such thing as an intrinsically acceptable or unacceptable Jewish ideal. All that we've been raised to view positively or negatively, to aspire to or to be repulsed by, to accept or to reject, are simply the result of subjective societal conditioning. As the gatekeepers of public discourse the editors see it as their role - nay, their duty - to open us up to an as broad and inclusive range of options as possible. And if something rubs you funny about these sophisticated new ideas, fret not. That's not your Bubbeh's Yiddisheh sensitivities nagging at you; it's probably your American political affiliation. Just lie down for a few moments and it'll pass.

אחי וריעי when are we going to wake up and say that this is not ok? When are we going to understand that it's not enough to just roll our eyes and say, "Wow this paper is really a piece of work"; that if I realize it's off and you realize it's off, then this is not what we should be allowing to direct the conversation for our community? Oh yes, we are strong and firm and won't fall for their most extreme ideas. But don't we realize that every time they move the goal posts, the fifty yard line shifts right along with it? Can't we recognize that while we had our backs turned, feeling all noble in our 'moderation' for not tossing the thing in the incinerator ten years ago, our attitudes and ideals, our instincts and perceptions, have been subtly changing? And can't we open our eyes to the fact that it's not stopping? Today we cheerfully imbibe things that a decade ago would have caused convulsions. Is our current value system so immune from undergoing similar transformation? Won't we continue to devolve, as the community activists in search of a cause's desperate need for continued relevance (and basic need for filler material) leads them ever further afield in pursuit of fresh perspectives?

Are we still so shallow as to snort, "C'mon, you think my kid's gonna go off the derech just from reading a story about how regular looking kollel guy was really behind closed doors a gambling addicted abusive husband and father?" No, nobody ever went off the derech from reading one story. But when someone spends his or her adolescence ingesting a weekly diet of how fake, dark, and ugly things are in our community, then the idealism and excitement for Yiddishkeit that we so fervently wish to impart inevitably lose their luster. (That this observation should be anything less than blindingly obvious to anybody is a testament to the awesome power of a generation's worth of social engineering.)

We devote fortunes of money, endless hours of time, and rivers of emotion toward our children growing up to act, think, and feel like Yidden. Are we to gamble it all in exchange for some graphic arts, play on words headlines, and pseudoprofound 'forums' ("Where the conversation happens", they so humbly label it)?

It's Elul. It's a new school year. It's a short phone call. 718-686-9339. "Hello, I'd like to cancel my subscription, effective immediately. Thank you and have a wonderful day." Let's recall control of our hashkafa and standards from the caretakers who have long since proven themselves unworthy of our trust. Not only for ourselves individually, but also for our community as a whole, let's rebuild the breached walls. We've given up far more than this for our ideals; we can kick our intellectual junk food dependency. השם   למעןlet's call it quits.

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