I am learning to see things differently since I had a stroke and I realize R kAMINETSKY IS NOT THE Biggest problem in the world rather it is a widespread self absorption at the cost of great insensitivity to others
today on the way to shacharis with the aid of my walker I was deliberately rammed by a baby carriage by a young woman who was late for her baby sitter and she uttered not a word saying she was sorry. after all her husband,s learning is the most important thing and I was simply an obstacle that needed to be pushed aside. of course it is not just her or chareidim. what about the cute
8 year old who spent all of mincha staring at me standing unsteadily AT THE BACK OF THE SHUL BECAUSE NONE OF THE AVREICHIM WANTED TO GIVE UP THEIR SEATS
IS THIS WORSE THAN THE MODERN ORTHODOX JEW WALKING HIS ROTTWeILER WHO GOT INTO An INVOLVED DISuCSSION with his friends on a street corner and was very annoyed when i asked him to move. because after all i just needed to push the dog aside to get by
or the healthy 60 year old secular men and women who refuse to give up their first row seats on the bus. even if it is obvious i need a seat to avoid falling. because they are entitled
now i understand why abuse issues though well known were deliberately ignored for so many years
i have been told it is an inherent problem with Israelis- i refuse to accept that answer. because i do see kind thoughtful israelis both chareim and chilonim of all ages every day
Why do you think the woman rammed you deliberately?
ReplyDelete“I realize R Kaminetsky is not the biggest problem in the world rather it is a widespread self absorption at the cost of great insensitivity to others.”
ReplyDeleteHertz Chumash says that the object of the plagues is the education of men in the knowledge of God. Hertz refers to Psalms 78 and 105:
“We will not withhold them from their children, telling the coming generation the praises of the Lord and His might, and the wonders He performed. He established a decree in Jacob, ordained a teaching in Israel, charging our fathers to make them known to their children, that a future generation might know —children yet to be born— and in turn tell their children that they might put their confidence in God, and not forget God’s great deeds, but observe His commandments” (Psalms 78:4-7).
“Turn to the Lord, to His might; seek His presence constantly. Remember the wonders He has done, His portents and the judgments He has pronounced, O offspring of Abraham, His servant, O descendants of Jacob, His chosen ones. He is the Lord our God; His judgments are throughout the earth. He is ever mindful of His covenant, the promise He gave for a thousand generations, that He made with Abraham, swore to Isaac, and confirmed in a decree for Jacob, for Israel, as an eternal covenant, saying, To you I will give the land of Canaan as your allotted heritage.” (Psalms 105:4-11).
The wicked in Egypt did not teach their children “the praises of the Lord and His might, and the wonders He performed.” They did not “observe His commandments.” They became secular Egyptians. The wicked in Egypt were dismissive of “His covenant, the promise He gave for a thousand generations, that He made with Abraham, swore to Isaac, and confirmed in a decree for Jacob, for Israel, as an eternal covenant, saying, To you I will give the land of Canaan as your allotted heritage.” I live in Israel, in Bnei Brak. I call to American Jews to make Aliyah. I’m still waiting to hear a defense of the Rabbi Kaminestky heter, of the work of ORA etc.
Torah thought on parshat Bo.
ReplyDelete"Then the Lord said to Moses, Go to Pharaoh. For I have hardened his heart and the hearts of his courtiers, in order that I may display these My signs among them, and that you may recount in the hearing of your sons and of your sons’ sons how I made a mockery of the Egyptians and how I displayed My signs among them—in order that you may know that I am the Lord.” (Exodus 10:1-2)
"Moses replied, We will all go, young and old: we will go with our sons and daughters, our flocks and herds; for we must observe the Lord’s festival." (Exodus 10:9)
The plague of Locust ארבה was a warning to Jews in Egypt to leave. Before punishment comes a warning. The punishment for those that didn’t want to leave Egypt was during the plague of darkness. Moses ordered “We will all go, young and old: we will go with our sons and daughters, our flocks and herds” before the plague locust. Those that were against Moses and against going up from Egypt---were wicked. Many wicked died in the plague of darkness. The wicked heard Moses’ pleas before Pharaoh and they took Pharaoh’s side. God punished them.
Lack of mentchlachkeit infuriates me as well
ReplyDeleteShe actually told you the reason she rammed you because she's running late for her babysitter? And she didn't say she was sorry because her husband's learning is more important and you are just an obstacle to be pushed aside?
ReplyDeleteWhy do I think you are making this up? Has your imagination gone totally beserk? Are you worried about the insensitivity to others when you yourself has shown throughout your blog that you are totally insensitive to others? Are your other posts based on the same information as the one here, that is you just make up information with no basis in reality?
no she simply hit me and sped away saying nothing. there is no way should would not have seen me unless she was totally blind.
ReplyDeletethese are the young woman who live in the neighborhood they are all kollel wives with babies
It's what I always say. I hate the labeling of groups with terms like "Modern Orthodox", "Chareidim", "Chasidim", etc.
ReplyDeleteAnd why do I hate the labels? Because of something I've noticed.
People tend to withdraw into these groups NOT because they want to collectively work on this or that Mitzvah. That may be part of it. But it seems to be the main reason is because they all share a common Aveira, and they all collectively ignore it.
Thus, they don't want outsiders coming in and observing their obvious transgressions. Whether it's pointing out Rabbi Shmuel Kamenetsky facilitated an adulterous relationship. Or whether it's pointing out a group that is sorely lacking in basic Derech Eretz.
Something else I have ready on my lips but generally restrain myself from saying. If someone who is learned acts in the most boorish, obnoxious manner, and knowingly and gleefully does it, I want to ask, "Derech Eretz precedes Torah -- since you so clearly lack Derech Eretz, am I to infer you also lack Torah?"
Every generation has its curse. Self-absorption is just another word for self-worship. A person turns himself into his own avodah zarah and nothing is more important than his god, himself.
ReplyDeleteLet's try to reframe this incident.
ReplyDeleteHer child might have been sick, and she had an urgent appointment with a doctor, who was only going to be available to see the child at this precise hour. She was also overtired and frazzled from a sleepless night taking care of her child. Due to being emotionally involved with her sick child, she barely noticed you being in her way, and accidentally bumped into you (not "rammed", as you perceived it). Even after she bumped into you, she was did realize how serious this was, and that there was a need to apologize.
I see it as a perfectly plausible explanation.
ReplyDeleteI will admit that it's easier for me to see it as a viable possibility, since I'm removed from the situation. Unlike yourself who is going through a challenging recovery from a stroke, and it's harder for you to see beyond what meets the eye.
However I suggest that the principle of "dan lekaf zechus" REQUIRES us to go through this mental exercise, despite its difficulty.
what a great justification! are you seious?
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