NYTimes          [....] It was a good question. Had part of me come to “save” my old     friend from the clutches of the Christian right? Though I don’t     doubt that sexual attraction can evolve, I was skeptical of     Michael’s claim of heterosexuality — and I rejected his argument     that “homosexuality prevents us from finding our true self within.”     Besides, I had a hard time believing that Michael’s “true self” was     a fundamentalist Christian who writes derogatorily about being gay.     But whatever aspirations I had about persuading Michael to join the     ranks of ex-ex-gays, they were no match for his eagerness to save     me.     
     “God loves you more than any dude will ever love you,” he told me at     the cafe. “Don’t put your faith in some man, some flesh. That’s what     we do when we’re stuck in the gay identity, when we’re stuck in that     cave. We go from guy to guy, looking for someone to love us and make     us feel O.K., but God is so much better than all the other masters     out there.”      
     Michael, who is 36, now often refers to gay life as a kind of cave —     or cage. In an open letter to Ricky Martin, published on     WorldNetDaily after Martin came out, he wrote, “Homosexuality is a     cage in which you are trapped in an endless cycle of constantly     wanting more — sexually — that you can never actually receive,     constantly full of emptiness, trying to justify your twisted actions     by politics and ‘feel good’ language.”     
     Had Michael been secretly unhappy as a gay man, and was he now     projecting that onto all gay-identified people? I broached the     question later that night at his small off-campus apartment, where     we sat in his barren kitchen eating Oreo cookies. “Well, you can’t     see how dark it is in a cave when you’re in it,” he said. “But, no,     at the time I didn’t consider myself unhappy.” [....]