Stop Telling Children How Good They Are

 https://aish.com/stop-telling-children-how-good-they-are/

Instead of teaching our children to develop and maintain a positive opinion of themselves, we should teach them to accept their inherent worth—and then turn their attention away from judging themselves and toward evaluating their actions.

Because once feeling good about myself becomes the focus, I now have something I need to protect. When I fail, what does that say about me? When someone criticizes me, I need to defend myself. When someone else succeeds, perhaps his success somehow diminishes me.

Let’s spend a little less time convincing our children how good they are and more time teaching them how much good they can do. They don’t need to spend their lives proving to themselves how good they are. They need to know how important they are—and live accordingly.