A Hill to Die On?

 https://mishpacha.com/a-hill-to-die-on/

Wrong Message

“…And then they got a letter in the mail saying that all their bills were paid, and the father felt better. That’s the power of bitachon.”

My kids have shared many such stories with me. Dire circumstances, have some bitachon,and problem is solved. The message: If you really believed, you wouldn’t have any problems.

I’m not trying to traumatize my kids with these conversations, but I think they’re important to have. Because the version of bitachon that some books and shiurim peddle is toxic. The message that comes across, particularly for children, is that if you have enough bitachon, all your problems will be solved exactly as you wish them to, that there’s a happily ever after possibility to every scenario — and if things didn’t work out, it’s obviously because you’re lacking bitachon. I want to know if the purveyors of these messages stick around to pick up the pieces after Hashem said, “No” and “No” and “No.”