A personal note to my obsessive reader Dr. Michael Schlesinger,
I want to note that your obsession with hurting your former wife and your children - is a disgrace not only for a human being and a father - but especially as a Jew. Our Sages say because mercy and kindness are inherently part of the nature of a Jew - that someone who lacks these qualities - is suspected of not being a Jew. Are you really Jewish?
As has been noted many times, divorce is painful and degrading - but that is no justification for your efforts to erase Beth contact with her children. It is clear from the police and court documents that despite Beth being an excellent mother - you and your associates have succeeded in taking custody away from her in a manner that would have brought shame and universal condemnation in any normal Western democracy. Unfortunately Vienna - especially the Jewish community - is an embarrassment to humanity and Torah values.
Your blocking of visitation as well as your attempt to punish Beth by arbitrarily cancelling court ordered visits is beyond disgusting. Your insistence on an arrangement that requires Beth to pay an unnecessary and burdensome transfer fee - can only be described as characteristic of Sedom - the most negative description given by our Sages for twisted, gratuitous behavior.
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You have succeeded in not only severely disrupting Beth life - for no positive gain for your self - but your actions have the strong potential for causing your children permanent psychological damage. It is clear that they have already produced developmental delays.
I recently posted a number of comments by someone who signed herself "Beth". While I have no way of ascertaining the identity of the correspondent - I am sure that you either have or will be taking legal action against Beth because of it. You are one of my most devoted readers - because of your hatred and desire to destroy Beth. Sick!!!!
Our Sages talk about the dangers of "hatred in the heart" which poisons and rots all positive aspects of a person. That is what you are manifesting and you will reap the consequences if you don't wake up now to reality - including the psychological and spiritual
Michael - it is time for you to stop and think about what you are doing with your life. Do you have any concerns that are greater than hurting and showing hatred for Beth and your children? Do you really think that after 120 years your cathartic violence will be praised? Will your children thank you when they become adults - for hurting the one person that they love and crippling them psychologically? Or will you end up as a bitter old man who is shunned by everyone and dies without friends or family? Why is the purpose of your life to hate - and not to love?
We are in the month of Elul It is time for you to stop and reflect on who you are and where you are going in life. G-d put you here on Earth for something more praiseworthy than destroying the life and happiness of others. It is not too late to repent and start over with the sole guiding principle - "What is in the best interest of my children?"
I would suggest that you and Beth go to an independent child psychologist and jointly work out a constructive program. I would also strongly recommend that you see an independent therapist and be evaluated as to how you can get your life together. The results should be shared with the court - which for some reason has failed to have you properly assessed.
I would also suggest strongly that you apologize to Beth and your children and devote your considerable talents to helping others - not hurting them. It is not too late - but at some point the damage you are causing will not be reversible. Wake up now!
Rabbi Eidensohn, congratulations on your apt and highly constructive message to Dr Schlesinger!
ReplyDeleteHe will have the chance to prove he is a Jew at Yom Kippur, which is coming up very soon, by repenting, fasting and praying for atonement of his sins between him and G-d. The sins the world and the Vienna lot know he has committed against his children and their mother will need forgiveness both from these unfortunate three as well as from G-d.
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Excellent words. Let's hope that Michael Schlesinger wakes up and listens.
ReplyDeleteHatred will not win. It never does. It destroys. The lives he is destroying the most is his children who is professes to love.
If Michael Schlesinger truly loves his children he will follow the recommendations set out here !
Such obviously true words. Let us hope that, in this month of Elul, Dr Schlesigner, and those who facilitate his abuse of Beth and the boys, will use the time for constructive reflection, and use their power to create a better future.
ReplyDeleteI disagree with all of the above. Why? Because you are ignoring one thing: A broken marriage can break a person in ways normal people cannot fathom. A broken marriage is where people teach their children to hate their father or mother. A broken marriage is where all of the love turns to hate, something the rest of us fortunately do not comprehend one bit.
ReplyDeleteI solved the worst Agunah cases in Monsey, because I treated the husbands the way they wanted to be treated. The rabbonim, the askonim, all treated the husbands with respect and gave them "their day in court." Not one drop of hate remained. But when people break up and parents or close friends stir the pot of hate, we have things nobody understands.
You can paint his picture all over the world. But he has what he wants. A community that helps him destroy Beth.
I think that the solution is for every Jew who comes to America or Israel from Vienna should be handed the above letter, not addressed to the husband, but to the "normal" Jews who ignore Beth.