Wife giving Charity

 Sefer Chasidim (1047) If a stingy man said to his wife, know that if you give anything to charity I will beat or curse you.  Since the charity collector knows that the husband does not approve he should not take even a small amount from her. But if the community makes a decree to give charity and the husband violates the ban, if the wife gives in compliance with the decree a blessing will come upon her. Furthermore, if the husband steals his wife or son should return the theft.