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Why is it that in these somewhat advanced and contemporary times we allow the idea of seeking matrimonial matches for our children — shidduchim — to be equated with pleas for recovery from an illness, improved health, and the ability to earn an income?
Everything in our lives emanates, in one form or another, from the One Above. At the same time, as created beings, we have been invested with something extraordinarily unique — the ability to make free and independent decisions — as a gift from G-d. According to our sages, it is the will of Hashem that we use our Divine wisdom to channel our energies in good, right, and productive directions.
The odd thing about shidduchim is that in this generation — let us say over the last two decades — the effort to marry off our children has become a dreaded facet of life that has been comfortably couched in the term “crisis.” And those who have emerged as leaders of our worldwide Torah communities seem relatively at peace with the idea that a shidduch crisis is plaguing our community.
“The Shidduch Fraud” Not in Israel.
ReplyDeleteNo. “The point is that over the past few years, shidduchim have become the Achilles heel of the Orthodox or Yeshiva-oriented community. While this new reality is currently plaguing families worldwide… A shadchan who resides in Crown Heights and who has already made over 40 successful shidduchim told me the other day that in her community there are more than 300 single girls over the age of 27. People are unfortunately desperate….Let’s fix this.”
The fix is to move to Israel. I made aliya July 1991 because June 1991 I got my PhD…. Susan reneged on her promise to join me with our 6 children not yet married. God sent me a new wife and blessed us with 3 daughters. One is now married and the others have dates etc. There is no shidduchim problem in Israel for the Orthodox and yeshiva-oriented community…
Samson’s troubles--the wicked Delilah etc, started with “His father and mother did not realize that this was the Lord’s doing: He was seeking a pretext against the Philistines, for the Philistines were ruling over Israel at that time. So Samson and his father and mother went down to Timnah. When he came to the vineyards of Timnah [for the first time], a full-grown lion came roaring at him. The spirit of the Lord gripped him, and he tore him asunder with his bare hands as one might tear a kid asunder; but he did not tell his father and mother what he had done. Then he went down and spoke to the woman, and she pleased Samson.”
"There is no shidduchim problem in Israel for the Orthodox and yeshiva-oriented community… "
ReplyDeleteMr. Aranoff, I wish that what you wrote were true, but unfortunately, you are either deluded, or living in a parallel universe.
IsraelReader says “Mr. Aranoff, I wish that what you wrote were true, but unfortunately, you are either deluded, or living in a parallel universe.”
ReplyDeleteSee https://www.jpost.com/Israel-News/Leaked-letter-Chief-Rabbinate-blacklisted-dozens-of-US-Orthodox-rabbis-558553
“The Rabbinical Courts Administration said in response, “There is no closed, consolidated list of which Diaspora rabbis are recognized by the Chief Rabbinate of Israel.... When there is no up-to-date information, the rabbinical court examines each case on its merits, and is assisted by experts when necessary. Rabbi Asher Ehrentrau, who knows and is an expert in rabbinates and rabbinical courts in the Diaspora, is one of the experts the rabbinical courts uses to assist them and the information he has been accepted by the Chief Rabbinate for many years.” The Chief Rabbinate responded by saying it cannot relate to documents written by officials of the Rabbinical Courts, and insisted that it does not issue blanket rejections of rabbis. In fact, a spokesman for the Chief Rabbinate told The Jerusalem Post that letters of affirmation for Weiss have been accepted in the last three years.”
I wonder if Rabbi Asher Ehrentrau is the Rabbi Asher that advised me to send Susan a get early 1993 to see if Susan would accept. Susan never told me why she wanted a get. Why do you attack me?
I have nothing against you.
ReplyDeleteAs "IsraelReader", one of the things I focus on, is responding when when someone posts nonsense about Israel.
You posited that "There is no shidduchim problem in Israel for the Orthodox and yeshiva-oriented community…".
I argued that it untrue. If you can refute my argument, please do so.
Conflating the discussion at hand with your issues about Susan, does not make for intellectual discourse.
IsraelReader says “I have nothing against you. As "IsraelReader", one of the things I focus on, is responding when someone posts nonsense about Israel….You posited that "There is no shidduchim problem in Israel for the Orthodox and yeshiva-oriented community…". I argued that it untrue. If you can refute my argument, please do so. Conflating the discussion at hand with your issues about Susan, does not make for intellectual discourse.”
ReplyDeleteNo. Hard to prove a negative. Hard to prove that there is no shidduchim problem is Israel.
No. IsraelReader has to prove, if he wants to smear Israel, that Israel does have a shidduch problem, has bad judges etc. My Susan experience is that NYS has bad judges and Israel Rabbinical Court has good judges etc. This is my May 21, 2018 letter to NYS Commission on Judicial Conduct, NYS Inspector General, TIAA, and Susan:
“…2.The NYS Commission on Judicial Conduct writes me:
“…May 11, 2018 Mr. Gerald Aranoff 8 Miriam Haneviah Street Bnei Brak Israel 51583 Re: 2018/N-0358 Dear Mr. Aranoff: This is to acknowledge receipt by the State Commission on Judicial Conduct of your complaint dated April 13, 2018…”
4.I'll be calling Judge Prus and Marilyn Rothstein to get a copy of the fake/phony 1995 Rigler Order of Separation. Susan, please send me your copy. TIAA, please get a copy and send it to me. NYS Inspector General, you surely can get a copy. NYS Commission on Judicial Conduct, can you ask Judge Prus for a copy? If Susan allows me my TIAA pension, I'll drop all my complaints and letter writing. Live and let live I say…”
The topic of discussion is NOT about the Israeli Rabbinate.
ReplyDeleteMy evidence is an extensive list of older single girls, living in Israel, that have not managed to find their "beshert" yet.
That is not smearing Israel, because the shidduch crisis is not something being caused by "Israel" per se, rather by various universal factors.