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A unique opportunity for a Kiddush Hashem
The
mechanech was at his wit’s end. He had tried everything including the
newest pedagogical techniques that he had learnt at a recent course. He
just could not get this child to listen, and things didn't seem to be
getting any easier. The boy seemed to be fine otherwise. His family was baaleibatish,
yet nothing seemed to be able to motivate him. He didn't bother anyone;
he just sat there, sometimes looking out the window with a far off
gaze. The mechanech felt frustrated; if he didn't know any better he
would have thought the boy had a personal axe to grind.
Our
mechanech had a connection with a Tzaddik and when he visited his Rebbe
he wrote in his kvittel about the problem with this boy. The Rebbe
looked up to his chossid with warm sweet eyes and asked simply, “Have
you davened for this talmid?” What a stunningly beautiful thought! Have
you davened for this child? Does his pain enter your inner landscape?
Is this child important enough for your sincere prayers?
Hearing
this episode brought tears to my eyes. In the world of education we are
often so obsessed with ticking all the boxes, achieving the right marks
in tests, approximating preordained levels that we forget who we are
teaching. Nothing brings us closer to our students than when we see
their difficulties and tribulations as those of Yiddishe neshomas with
whose care we have been entrusted. Who wouldn't daven for a loved one?
What greater tool could any Torah Yied have?
In
parshas Shemini we come across an extremely deep lesson. “Moshe and
Aaron came” (9:23). This “coming” refers to a specific prayer that Moshe
and Aaron offered upon the completion of the Mishkan. Rashi explains
that when construction of the Mishkan was finished and all the
sacrifices had been brought, the Divine Presence still did not descend
upon the Bnei Yisroel. Aaron was extremely distressed, because he took
it as a rebuke for his participation during the episode of the Golden
Calf. At that point, Moshe came and davened for Hashem’s mercy. It was
first then that the Shechina descended.
Perhaps
this is meant to show us that even after every detail of a set of
instructions has been fulfilled, all the boxes ticked, still, it takes a
tefillah to actualise the bringing down of the presence of Hashem.
We
all are extremely aware of the challenges our young face, and we have
all seen our mechanchim trying their utmost to advance their
understanding of their students. But, as the Rebbe asked, have we
davened for our students? Have we stood with a Sefer Tehillim in hand
and beseeched Hashem for Divine help?
I
would like to make a proposal. I do so with trepidation because I am
fully aware that others may wonder about where this originates. However,
sometimes you just have an intuition about something and you want to
share it. What happens subsequently is in Hashem’s Hands.
My
proposal is simple: once a year, at a date to be determined, every
rebbe, mechanech, menahel, Rosh Yeshiva, Beis Yaakov teacher, indeed
everyone who has our children's neshomas in their hands, should come
together and daven for their students. This will be at one central
location, embracing all mosdos.
Each
participant will come with a list of their students’ names and after we
all say a few chapters of Tehillim, each participant will quietly go
through their list. The order of this event can be fine- tuned. I only
want to offer the template.
Now,
step back for a moment and just imagine the impact such an event could
have. Children would see how their teachers care about them. Parents
would witness the deep devotion that their rebbes have for their
charges. Just the thought of hundreds, perhaps more, of our mechanchim
coming with their lists, asking Hashem for help, beseeching that they
succeed with the next generation of hielige neshomas, is awesome.
The
children would feel a sense of connection, as would the teachers.
Mechanchim from all mosdos would be in one place davening for their
students.
This would
be a Kiddush Hashem without any politics or factions. It’s just a case
of Torah teachers offering their personal tefillos. Above and beyond all
the rules and guidelines, they are coming simply as Yieden, asking for
help in the most vital challenge of our times. My heart whispers to me
that this would create kovod Shomayim, and I sense that our combined
tefillos for our kinderlach would rip open the Gates of Shomayim.
I
repeat, I am but a minor player in this huge field, and forgive me for
my impertinence, but none is intended. I only bring this proposal
because in a turbulent sea, any lifeboat is worthy of support.
I hope readers will take this matter to heart, and if it strikes a chord there, please let’s do something about it soon.
Our children need our tefillos, and we need to be offering them now.
I am all for Tefilos because it may help parents and teachers to focus less on power , doing to kids and trying to motivate them and rather focus on ' working with kids' and trying to help kids by creating the conditions so that they can motivate themselves.
ReplyDelete' He just could not get this child to listen' - the renowned American educationalist Deborah Meier said that teaching is essentially listening and learning is essentially talking.
The seider night is a great place to start to stimulate the curiosity of kids , hear their questions and perspectives – and start listening to them and working with them instead of trying to motivate them with rewards, prizes, competition, grades etc
When it comes to 'socio-moral ' learning – behavior we should do the same thing .Try to solve problems in a collaborative way hearing their concerns and perspectives.
We can doven for them , and show that we love them. But as a kid once said about his dad – he loves me , he will do anything for me – but he does not know who I am . I am a virtual kid for him. Dr Benzion Sorotzhin brings a quote in the name of the Chazon Ish – what kids need more than love is respect . Instead of trying to get the kid to listen we should try to listen to the kid
Adding tfilot is not the litvish way. Anshei knesset hagdolah set our tfilot, and we cannot change it. And with current politics as they are even chasdidim and sfardim dare not add new tfilot.
ReplyDeleteExcept against "amim asher lo yeda-ucha"
MiMedinat HaYam
Really? So you have no Piutim on Yom HaKippur?
Deletei was being sarcastic. thanx for extending the sarcasm.
DeleteI am responding here with an idea from the old school - an idea that is hardly understood anymore in this day and age.
ReplyDeleteEverything today is for show and nothing is pure anymore. We make an Asifa to Daven. The 'Real' purpose of a mass gathering for Tefilla is that Hain Kail Kabir Velo Yimos, that Hashem doesn't ignore or Ch'V reject a request brought before him by the masses of Klal Yisroel. So every Jew makes himself part of Klal Yisroes to beseech The Master of the Universe in an Ais Tzorah etc. Or more reasons like this which have to do with the Koach Hatzibbur in relating to Hashem.
But when we feel the urge to do this in a place where we will be 'Observed' by particular human beings, than, to put it bluntly, Hashem is simply the 'Prop' for our PR job. It's like the guy who Davens in such an Ehrlicher looking way, and every once in a while peeps around to see that his 'Tzidkus' is being noticed by everybody. So whom is he worshiping?
Our students should be in our Tefillos, that is to say our Tefillos to 'Hashem', but no publicity please. That just adulterates everything. The Ramba"m refers to Tefillo as 'Lehisboded Im Kono'
You say:
"Children would see how their teachers care about them."
"Parents would witness the deep devotion that their rebbes have for their charges."
So it's about what children and parents will see. But Tefilloh is to Hashem for his divine help, not through our publicly showing our children or parents anything. I agree that the children should be made to feel that we really care - that is if we in fact do care. But then it is not the same thing as Tefillo. So it is neither. Children will see that we are making a spectacle about pretending to be Davening for them.
I think there should be an awareness made for all Rebbes to feel real Ahavas Yisroel for their students. If any Rebbe chooses to take this seriously, and not for show, they can work on themselves and reach any level of this, then they should Daven for the students in the privacy of their own Tefillos.