YNET This item shows that the most disgusting examples of abuse can be perceived by the perpetrator as being wanted by the victim.
During the trial, the father expressed remorse and said he saw the deeds as a “romance” which the two share.
Wednesday, July 10, 2013
28 years prison for father who repeatedly raped 6 year old stepdaughter - because he claimed they were in love
During the trial, the father expressed remorse and said he saw the deeds as a “romance” which the two share.
I assume this is being posted in part as a response to the Lakewood rabbonim who asserted that they believed that Yosef Kolko, although culpable, was not a "rodef" because he had been "seduced" by the victim.
ReplyDeleteRav Eidensohn, as a trained psychologist (which I am not) and highly knowledgeable in this area, perhaps you can confirm for your readers what I have read, that sexual abusers, sometimes abusers of quite young children, frequently claim their victims "seduced" them, "asked for it," and the like, and may even believe it. But at least in the case of a pre-pubescent minor, the abuser is projecting onto the child his own feelings -- including, perhaps, his longing for his own innocence lost in a similar way, and mistaking childish needs for adult ones. A person capable of this kind of self-deception (and lack of moral self-control) to satisfy his own needs will be capable of the same behavior with another child, and should indeed be considered dangerous.