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Another Guest Post
When Tamar abducted the child she had with Aharon from Silver Spring to Pennsylvania, she left behind in the apartment notes on her marriage to Aharon. Tamar acknowledged that she wrote these notes both in the Baltimore Beis Din and in civil court.
The following are excerpts from those notes:
Why I love/like Aharon/what I respect:
respect: shmiras halashon
loyalty - I can trust will always be at my side when crises
makpid on kashrus and davening
idealistic - can also be tiresome/absurd
loving/sweet/ affectionate/gentle to me
lets me spend money - equal share
sometimes helpful
open/honest/real to me
doesn't pressure me to go back to work
appreciates me - taking care of baby etc.
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Perhaps this is at least part of the reason the Baltimore Beis Din, to which the parties brought the matter, and which held several hearings in the case with the participation of both parties did not rule that a get should be given.
There are no grounds for kfia (coercion against Aharon to give a get). This is not even a valid claim of ma'os alai. How could anyone believe that a get given in this case under pressure of a kidnapping and beating (or even ORA's demonstrations) would have any validity?