tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7309929059139673041.post4587245646701631789..comments2024-03-28T02:08:17.990+02:00Comments on Daas Torah - Issues of Jewish Identity: Meeting in Lakewood regarding the Torah Approach to MarriageDaas Torahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07252904288544083215noreply@blogger.comBlogger29125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7309929059139673041.post-13725158360772791892014-03-04T18:17:05.321+02:002014-03-04T18:17:05.321+02:00I usually, I presented this program to the gedolei...I usually, I presented this program to the gedolei hador in family and divorce and they were all impressed with it. What did they know that you don't? If you saw a few children from a divorced family you would probably rethink your ideas.Dovid Eidensohnhttp://torahtimes.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7309929059139673041.post-77894790986304853612014-03-04T03:31:23.687+02:002014-03-04T03:31:23.687+02:00Even with the pain of the problems you propose to ...Even with the pain of the problems you propose to solve, I respectfully disagree on this idea of yours. There is a fine line between being helpful / rodef shalom and a meddler. The shalom bayis beis din crosses that line. And should it become institutionalized, I forsee men refusing to get married 'kdaas yisroel and the shalom bayis beis din'. Getting between husband and wife should only be done in extreme circumstances. Not as a regular practice. Please continue with your many other wonderful activities and let this one drop. I usually agree with younoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7309929059139673041.post-9240126718482272262014-03-02T21:00:14.975+02:002014-03-02T21:00:14.975+02:00כבוד הרב, מה קרה אצל המפגש, האם הי' בהצלחה?כבוד הרב, מה קרה אצל המפגש, האם הי' בהצלחה?מיינסטערnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7309929059139673041.post-80391126987907665752014-02-27T19:17:15.231+02:002014-02-27T19:17:15.231+02:00The people who are miserable for the rest of their... The people who are miserable for the rest of their lives are the people in bad marriages. The children who grow up with divorced parents are also candidates for continuous misery cholilo. People regularly end up in court because of their divorce and spend 300,000 dollars. One person had to pay his wife's 300,000 dollars. And for the rest of their lives, they lack the money to pay what the court mandates and can end up in mail. Is that better than Shalom Bayis Beth Din? And what of the woman who never gets a GET, or the husband who never gets divorced and has to run around here and there looking for someone to permit him to remarry. And this, to you, is not as bad as signing up with a Beth Din?Dovid Eidensohnhttp://torahtimes.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7309929059139673041.post-23128924624739081192014-02-26T22:36:36.155+02:002014-02-26T22:36:36.155+02:00Have you thought of ways how to win the trust of t...<br />Have you thought of ways how to win the trust of the parties, or is this all about power?<br /><br />Why should someone trust you to be meticulous in clarifying the tru dynamics of the relationship, or will you say that it makes no difference?<br /><br />Why don't you understand that few people will want to sign their life away and be miserable for the rest of their lives, by giving you the power to decide everything?<br /><br />better left unnamednoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7309929059139673041.post-6993537493815891022014-02-26T20:50:03.327+02:002014-02-26T20:50:03.327+02:00First of all if the couple signs an agreement with...First of all if the couple signs an agreement with legal papers that they will obey the Beth Din, especially if they confer upon it the power of fining them for violations of its orders, they will be pressured to obey the Beth DIn much more than if the two in the marriage just had it out daily with nobody superior to demand any changes. Defying a Beth Din accepted by two sides is a very serious matter at least in the Torah community, but once you sign over a power of arbitrator the Beth Din has real power even in secular law. Dovid Eidensohnhttp://torahtimes.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7309929059139673041.post-13881194199436356922014-02-26T20:14:10.980+02:002014-02-26T20:14:10.980+02:00Can you please clarify some things.
a Talmid of Ge...Can you please clarify some things.<br /><i>a Talmid of Gedolim HaGaon Amiti HaRav Aharon Kotler zt”l</i><br />When did you learn with him and what did you learn with him? <br /><br />,<i>Posek HaDor HaGaon HaRav Moshe Feinstein zt”</i><br />When did you learn with him, and what did you learn with him?<br /><br /><i>, and Posek HaDor HaGaon HaRav Yosef Shalom Elyashiv zt”l</i><br />When and what did you learn with him?<br /><br />In the past you claimed to be musmach from Rav Elyashiv, but when pressed on the matter you said that he wrote you a letter giving his blessing for the work you were doing.<br /><br />So since you have in the past conflated a hamlatza with a semicha, I think it is fair if we wonder about the rest as well. You have claimed to be musmach from Rav Feinstein Z"L. Do you actually have a semicha from him or is this the hamlatza he wrote for you book? Same questions with regard to Rav Kotler Z"L.<br />Looking for Claritynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7309929059139673041.post-49779449412659062952014-02-26T19:26:12.070+02:002014-02-26T19:26:12.070+02:00I think that your answer shows that you don't ...I think that your answer shows that you don't understand what it feels like to be stepped on and ignored.<br /><br />How is your signed and sealed authority to make decisions going to make anyone feel understood? It sounds like your proposal will just replace one arbitrary tyrannical party [husband/wife] with another [Bais Din].<br />better left unnamednoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7309929059139673041.post-41144469150801922912014-02-26T17:36:01.432+02:002014-02-26T17:36:01.432+02:00Communication skills and rules are not stronger th...Communication skills and rules are not stronger than what goes on in a marriage. A Beth Din with a signed and sealed authority in Torah and secular law is much more effective.Dovid Eidensohnhttp://torahtimes.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7309929059139673041.post-24492356874092093832014-02-26T14:38:14.750+02:002014-02-26T14:38:14.750+02:00What will make the affected parties want to listen...What will make the affected parties want to listen to this Bais Din any more than when they don't want to listen to a therapist, Borer, etc. that takes their spouse's side?<br /><br />Is this just another outsider claiming to know better and forcing their will on people that are hurting?<br /><br />How about teaching communication skills - and giving rules on how to decide when impasses arise?better left unnamednoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7309929059139673041.post-79603604343492064052014-02-26T11:01:35.544+02:002014-02-26T11:01:35.544+02:00I propose a "pink blancmange beis din" -...I propose a "pink blancmange beis din" - The intransigent party must eat two kilos of pink blancmange a day or be fined $2000 a day while the marriage lasts.<br />Shalom Bayis Beis Din is probably no worse or better than this.Danielhttp://www.d.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7309929059139673041.post-58054472009936913672014-02-26T00:34:02.883+02:002014-02-26T00:34:02.883+02:00I can't answer specific questions because I ha...I can't answer specific questions because I have to prepare myself in the next few days. I began my preparations with a video about Shalom Bayis Beth Din you can click it on at<br />https://dl.dropboxusercontent.com/u/107352205/marriage_peace1.wmv.Dovid Eidensohnhttp://torahtimes.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7309929059139673041.post-15243731268360821602014-02-25T23:42:52.876+02:002014-02-25T23:42:52.876+02:00Will u be addressing the issues of heter mea rabbo...Will u be addressing the issues of heter mea rabbonim bizman hazeh and its application etc?yussinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7309929059139673041.post-45205674153965143322014-02-25T14:40:33.287+02:002014-02-25T14:40:33.287+02:00Will you be addressing Dodelson Weiss specifically...Will you be addressing Dodelson Weiss specifically?Shoshana Axelnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7309929059139673041.post-15889666106404923782014-02-24T17:17:03.222+02:002014-02-24T17:17:03.222+02:00The book the Torah that Was, etc. is I think on Am...The book the Torah that Was, etc. is I think on Amazon.Dovid Eidensohnhttp://torahtimes.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7309929059139673041.post-23967578978760803152014-02-24T16:31:04.227+02:002014-02-24T16:31:04.227+02:00I hope u get 3 people without paying them . The b...I hope u get 3 people without paying them . The building on 7th and lexington would be a better place u would get a huge crowd Duvinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7309929059139673041.post-13103089647641378472014-02-24T03:09:41.731+02:002014-02-24T03:09:41.731+02:00Reb Dovid,
Your book the Torah that was and will b...Reb Dovid,<br />Your book the Torah that was and will be sounds very interesting. Where can it be purchased?Ma Rabbinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7309929059139673041.post-36354757689322619312014-02-24T01:23:14.892+02:002014-02-24T01:23:14.892+02:00Thank you for the good idea. Even if I don't ...Thank you for the good idea. Even if I don't do it right away, I hope eventually to get media coverage. This time I don't know.Dovid Eidensohnhttp://torahtimes.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7309929059139673041.post-84238151777274321082014-02-24T01:21:45.168+02:002014-02-24T01:21:45.168+02:00This is our first effort and we would like to do m...This is our first effort and we would like to do many things, but in reality we have to begin with what we have and hope to improve next time. I don't know about a recording/video right now. You are right it is a good idea, but right now I don't have a clear answer.Dovid Eidensohnhttp://torahtimes.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7309929059139673041.post-71802625282622953962014-02-24T01:19:14.887+02:002014-02-24T01:19:14.887+02:00Share the names when things did not work out? Why ...Share the names when things did not work out? Why should I. I hope another time we can work it out.Dovid Eidensohnhttp://torahtimes.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7309929059139673041.post-37957095544917660522014-02-23T22:39:14.121+02:002014-02-23T22:39:14.121+02:00Do you care to share the names of those two Rabbi&...Do you care to share the names of those two Rabbi's?Yookelnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7309929059139673041.post-48466363455117303982014-02-23T21:14:02.152+02:002014-02-23T21:14:02.152+02:00Originally I had two major rabbis lined up, but I ...Originally I had two major rabbis lined up, but I could not confirm them as one left town and the other could not be contacted, so at this point I don't have anyone else. However, there are hopefully people who have suffered from what we talk about on this blog from secular courts and others forcing a GET, and I am sure there will be some interesting remarks.Dovid Eidensohnhttp://torahtimes.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7309929059139673041.post-65795226100401032192014-02-23T21:12:55.765+02:002014-02-23T21:12:55.765+02:00You should advertise this in the local Lakewood pa...You should advertise this in the local Lakewood papers as well as on the local Lakewood email blast which goes to a large segment of the town. They can be reached at Jblasts@Gmail.com Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7309929059139673041.post-38849384328212178302014-02-23T20:53:16.144+02:002014-02-23T20:53:16.144+02:00will a recording/video be available for those unab...will a recording/video be available for those unable to attend?emes vishalomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05491792782697272690noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7309929059139673041.post-91197917907165894222014-02-23T19:31:51.940+02:002014-02-23T19:31:51.940+02:00הלכות בית נאמן בענין קנין ופרנסת הבית וביאורים בכמ...הלכות בית נאמן בענין קנין ופרנסת הבית וביאורים בכמה לאוין , קדושת הבית נאמן,בענין משפחה ותשובות אית נאמן בענין ריביתן<br />also in English The Torah that Was the Torah that Will be: Stories of Rosh Yeshivas. Personal encounters with Reb Aharon Kotler and other Gedolim of the past generations. Dovid Eidensohnhttp://torahtimes.comnoreply@blogger.com