Friday, March 28, 2014
Thursday, March 27, 2014
Schlesinger Twins: Rabbi Biderman's testimony regarding the twins
I, Rabbi Jacob Biderman, born on 28.11.1957 declare the following in testimony to the court:
Due to requests for the voluntary testimony that Rabbi Biderman - the head of the kindergarten that the twins attend - gave to the court, I am posting this translation from the German
---------------- Dated 15.5.2012
In the last few days I was contacted by a Rabbinic colleague in England who informed me that an acquaintance of Beth Schlesinger has initiated a media campaign which is about to be publicised. The media campaign claims that this is a 'horror story,' that the twins Samuel and Benjamin Schlesinger are in a very bad state with their father and that their father is endangering them. They further claim that this is demonstrated by the fact that Samuel needed a number of teeth removed. I refuted these claims and told this Rabbi that the director of the Lauder Chabad Kindergarten, which is under my authority, has told me not only about how well the children have settled into kindergarten since Autumn but also how much they have developed psychologically. I also told my English colleague that these false and one-sided claims illustrate amateur journalism and above all, harm the children Furthermore, I am being harassed by different Rabbonim from England, Israel and Australia who have contacted me to ask me to help the mother because - according to her - the children are in a terrible state.
Rabbi Jacob Biderman ----------------
Schlesinger Twins: Rebbitzen Rosenberg comes to Vienna community to help Beth and her children
The Rebbetzin is the wife of Rav Sariel Rosenberg from Bnei Brak - a major talmid chachom and posek who is a member of the beis din of Rav Karelitz. She is very actively involved in helping woman who have lost the custody of their children. She has visited Vienna a number of times and spent much time investigating Beth's case and she was appalled at the lack of support for Beth as well as how the twins have suffered. I asked her to write a guest post of what she has found.
Below is her 5 page letter translated in full from the Hebrew followed by the Hebrew original she sent me for posting here. In the first part she describes the tragic story of Yael which led her to Vienna to raise money for lawyers and where she found out about Beth. She describes in great detail the great miscarriage of justice and the reasons the community - which is known for it kindness and generosity - has failed to intervene.
Below is her 5 page letter translated in full from the Hebrew followed by the Hebrew original she sent me for posting here. In the first part she describes the tragic story of Yael which led her to Vienna to raise money for lawyers and where she found out about Beth. She describes in great detail the great miscarriage of justice and the reasons the community - which is known for it kindness and generosity - has failed to intervene.
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חוות דעת משפחת שלזינגר, וינה by Rebbetzin Miriam Rosenberg
Wednesday, March 26, 2014
Interview of Rabbi Yitzchak Goodman on his New Translation of “Marvels of our Blessed G-d’s Torah”
Five Towns Jewish Times by Rabbi Yair Hoffman
YH: So Rabbi Goodman, I understand that you have recently translated what has been described as “Rav Aharon Kotler’s favorite Sefer.”
RG: Yes, I was always fascinated by that sefer, “Niflaos MiToras Hashem Yisboroch” ever since I heard Rav Aharon Kotler greatly praised it and called it a segulah for Yiras Shamayim.
YH: What does the sefer do exactly?
RG: He proves that nobody but Hashem could have written the Torah because many enigmatic or unclear sentences become perfectly clear when you realize that they allude to events in the days of Dovid or Shlomo centuries after the Torah was given. [....]
Rav Triebitz's Introduction to my Daas Torah - cited by Dr. Sperber
Seforim Blog excerpt from Dr. Sperber's , On the Relationship of Mitzvot Between Man and His Neighbor and Man and His Maker. From Chapter 4
Here we may also call attention to R. Meir Triebitz’s insightful analysis (in his introduction to R. Daniel Eidensohn’s Daas Torah: A Jewish Sourcebook [Jerusalem: 2005, 31–35]). He begins by noting that God commands us twice to study Torah: once in Deuteronomy 11:19, and again in Deuteronomy 4:9–11. He analyzes the differences between these two formulations in all their details – e.g., one in the plural and the other in the singular; one talks of teaching, the other telling; one focuses on parents to children, while the other lists three generations. He concludes that “the two verses which obligate us to learn the Torah actually refer to two types of study. One refers to the study of the legal part of Torah, and the other to the study of Torah’s theology. Each form of study is deemed a separate scholarly enterprise.” He characterizes these two forms of study as “legal” (i.e., halachic) study, and “faith” study, which he states “deals primarily with Aggadic parts of the Torah.” But for our purposes it is important to emphasize that both verses, that is to say both classes of study, require the student also to be a teacher, and to pass on his learning to future generations. Hence, Torah study has a social aspect too.
Holy amnesia: remembering religious sages as super humans or as simply human
University of Portsmouth reprints by Yohai Hakak (2009)
Abstract
In 2002 , Rabbi Nathan Kamenetsky’s book Making of a Godol was published. The title of the book suggests the writer’s intention to demonstrate that even the greatest Torah sages did not come into the world with all the attributes of greatness, but rather went through a long process of struggle with human difficulties and weaknesses. The book raised a storm and within a short time was banned. The great Torah sages of Israel, headed by Rabbi Yosef Shalom Eliashiv, demanded that the author cease its distribution.
In a letter banning the book, signed by the greatest Lithuanian rabbis in Israel, the book is described thus:
It is full of grave humiliations, flippancies, and mockeries and creates a bad name for some of our greatest rabbis who are the holiest of the luminaries of Israel of the last generations. For they are the ‘ancients [who are] like angels’ and from their words all Israel lives [...] and the greatness of their honour and holiness is rooted in the heart of every God-fearing Jew. And this book seeks to abolish this through slander, disgrace and humiliation of their glorified honour, which is also the honour of our blessed God and our holy Torah.
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page 17:
Rabbi Hutner’s comments continued to make waves. Rabbi Yechiel Ya’acob-amongst the most prominent Haredi educators, also referred to this issue. In his lectures, he would often proclaim that ‘‘one should remove the Torah sages from the Burial Society,’’ when hinting at the fact that their current description in Haredi biographies causes children and youth to despair and in fact ‘‘buries’’ them alive. Rabbi Ya’acobson claims in his lectures that ‘‘one cannot educate through lies’’ and mentions that the Bible and the Talmud are replete with uncomplimentary descriptions about the nation’s illustrious figures.
Another educator to relate to the subject was Rabbi Yitzhak Hershkowitz,35 in his book She’ifot(‘‘Strivings’’) (2003 p. c) he devotes the 14 pages of the introduction to his voluminous book to shattering the delusion regarding the path of the Torah sages. As part of this effort,he introduces tales that testify to Torah sages’ struggles with the evil inclination andto the immense effort they had to invest in in order to become renowned in Torah.Thus, for example, he offers comments made by the Vilna Gaon to his student, the Magid MiDubnow, who asked to be bestowed with his evil inclination. In reply to the request, Hershkowitz quotes the Vilna Gaon as saying (2003, p. 3): ‘‘My child, may the Lord protect you from my evil inclination; it burns in me like fire!’’ On page 6, under the heading ‘‘Most Torah Sages Did Not Have Talent’’ he describes the tremendous efforts that befell whoever became a Torah sage and the travail that was the lot of those achieving this status...
Abstract
The last decade has witnessed a wave of Haredi literature dealing with the education of children and youth in particular. A common question raised in this literature is that of the proper way to describe the Torah sages of previous generations, i.e., what needs to be remembered and what should be forgotten about them. Many of the writers criticize the ways of writing customary up to our time, which tended to describe Torah sages as superhuman and as lacking any weaknesses or failings; raising educational concerns, they call for a change in these ways of portrayal. In this article, I apply Mary Douglas’s theoretical model of ‘‘enclave culture’’ to the current social circumstances of the Haredi community, in an attempt to explain both the origins of this trend as well as the sources of opposition to these new ways of writing history within the Haredi community.
In 2002 , Rabbi Nathan Kamenetsky’s book Making of a Godol was published. The title of the book suggests the writer’s intention to demonstrate that even the greatest Torah sages did not come into the world with all the attributes of greatness, but rather went through a long process of struggle with human difficulties and weaknesses. The book raised a storm and within a short time was banned. The great Torah sages of Israel, headed by Rabbi Yosef Shalom Eliashiv, demanded that the author cease its distribution.
In a letter banning the book, signed by the greatest Lithuanian rabbis in Israel, the book is described thus:
It is full of grave humiliations, flippancies, and mockeries and creates a bad name for some of our greatest rabbis who are the holiest of the luminaries of Israel of the last generations. For they are the ‘ancients [who are] like angels’ and from their words all Israel lives [...] and the greatness of their honour and holiness is rooted in the heart of every God-fearing Jew. And this book seeks to abolish this through slander, disgrace and humiliation of their glorified honour, which is also the honour of our blessed God and our holy Torah.
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page 17:
Rabbi Hutner’s comments continued to make waves. Rabbi Yechiel Ya’acob-amongst the most prominent Haredi educators, also referred to this issue. In his lectures, he would often proclaim that ‘‘one should remove the Torah sages from the Burial Society,’’ when hinting at the fact that their current description in Haredi biographies causes children and youth to despair and in fact ‘‘buries’’ them alive. Rabbi Ya’acobson claims in his lectures that ‘‘one cannot educate through lies’’ and mentions that the Bible and the Talmud are replete with uncomplimentary descriptions about the nation’s illustrious figures.
Another educator to relate to the subject was Rabbi Yitzhak Hershkowitz,35 in his book She’ifot(‘‘Strivings’’) (2003 p. c) he devotes the 14 pages of the introduction to his voluminous book to shattering the delusion regarding the path of the Torah sages. As part of this effort,he introduces tales that testify to Torah sages’ struggles with the evil inclination andto the immense effort they had to invest in in order to become renowned in Torah.Thus, for example, he offers comments made by the Vilna Gaon to his student, the Magid MiDubnow, who asked to be bestowed with his evil inclination. In reply to the request, Hershkowitz quotes the Vilna Gaon as saying (2003, p. 3): ‘‘My child, may the Lord protect you from my evil inclination; it burns in me like fire!’’ On page 6, under the heading ‘‘Most Torah Sages Did Not Have Talent’’ he describes the tremendous efforts that befell whoever became a Torah sage and the travail that was the lot of those achieving this status...
Tuesday, March 25, 2014
Time-Out or Time-In by Allan Katz
Allan Katz
Time-outs
are a popular discipline tool as they can be implemented
immediately and can be over in a couple of minutes. Time-outs are
described as
'Punishment Lite' .They are less destructive than other punishments
such as
spanking. The term is derived from 'time-out from positive
reinforcements'
techniques used with animals and the idea is that we use love withdrawal
or not
give attention when the child is misbehaving. Kids are rewarded with
attention ,love and connection when they behave and don't get the love ,
connection and attention when they misbehave. The down side is that
kids feel their parents' love
is conditional on how they behave, they are shown less love, feel
abandoned, rejected and confused. For parents the word time-out is
easier to
swallow than forced solitary confinement, which is what actually happens
when a
kid is banished to his room. The idea is that kids should also use this
time
and reflect on what they did and how it impacted on others.
There seems to be a basis for ' forced solitary confinement from
this week's portion-parasha Tazria. The person = Metzorah sinned by speaking
badly about other people and as a result of his 'lashon ha'ra = evil speech, he
developed a skin disease erroneously called leprosy. He was removed from people
and put into solitary confinement. He would be able then to appreciate the
importance of other people family, friends and community in giving him 'life'
and how destructive and divisive his actions were to interpersonal relations
and people. In fact the Metzrorah who
has the disease and is in solitary confinement is considered as having no life
and as if he were dead. This is not because of his suffering due to the disease
says Rabbi Chaim Shmulevitz, but due to him being in solitary confinement. Reb
Isaac Sher explains that the disease = Tzara'at is only visiteupon righteous
people who had sinned. Without sin, their skins shone as if the divine presence
was reflected in them. But when they sinned the divine presence left them and
their skins lost their brightness and developed spots and marks. Fools and
wicked people were not on the highest levels so they could be subject to this type
of divine intervention. Also in solitary
confinement these people would just feel sorry for themselves , and not reflect on how
their actions impacted on others and then repent.
When kids are forced to do '
time-outs the last thing they do is reflect on what they did and feel sorry for
others or a sibling. The now feel sorry for themselves, think their parents are
mean and plan to get revenge against his
brother. In any case the focus is now on complying with the time-out and on the
'mean' parent and not on the problem that gave rise to the time-out. This leads
to power struggles , kids running away when they hear the word time-out, or
keep on asking if they can get up, and worst of all because parents find
themselves using time-outs repeatedly and often for the same offence. When
time-outs don't work parents find themselves doing moretime-outs and more harsh versions
of the same thing.
Instead parents trying to feel in
control parents should aim for ' connection' and cooperation. They should be
pro-active and 'not in the moment' try to collaboratively solve problems that
are predictably giving rise to challenging behavior. And even' in the moment',
instead of threatening a kid with a time-out, they can do a 'time –in ' and ask
what's going on and remind the kid that what he does has an impact on other people,
explain that some ways of acting are just unacceptable and then try to solve
the problem where kids are likely to feel that their needs are being considered.
Parents can also use time -in to empathize with a kid's feelings, helping them to process their
feelings which all maybe needed to help the storm pass over. We could also suggest
another activity and with toddlers try to distract or redirect them. [...]
Sunday, March 23, 2014
Today’s Girls Love Pink Bows as Playthings, but These Shoot
NY Times Once upon a time, Grace Maher twirled around the house in Disney princess costumes, a vision of sequins, tiaras and pink.
She’s 8 now and done with all that. The only pink left is her new bow and arrow.
That
would be her Nerf Rebelle Heartbreaker Exclusive Golden Edge Bow by
Hasbro, a petunia-colored weapon with gold and white trim that shoots
colorful foam darts. Forget Ariel, the beautiful mermaid princess.
Grace’s new role model is Katniss Everdeen, the (also beautiful)
huntress/survivor in the “Hunger Games” trilogy of books and movies.
Heroines
for young girls are rapidly changing, and the toy industry — long adept
at capitalizing on gender stereotypes — is scrambling to catch up.
Toy
makers have begun marketing a more aggressive line of playthings and
weaponry for girls — inspired by a succession of female warrior heroes
like Katniss, the Black Widow of “The Avengers,” Merida of “Brave” and
now, Tris of the book and new movie “Divergent” — even as the industry
still clings to every shade of pink. [...]
Yosef Kolko pidyon shvuyim fund in Lakewood
http://daattorah.blogspot.com/2013/10/kolko-gets-15-years-after-judge-rejects.html
http://daattorah.blogspot.com/2013/05/yosef-kolko-pleads-guilty-to-charges.html
http://daattorah.blogspot.com/2012/06/yehuda-kolko-faces-13-year-old-accuser.html
update
Reb Daniel,
I'm sorry to report, that apparently your blog is not widely read in Lakewood...
Even after you published that the פדיון שבוים is for Kolko, the sign is still up in two shuls that I visited over Shabbos!?!
I'm not sure what should be done next, but there is one thing I'm sure about. If these signs are allowed to linger for a while, the oilam will get used to seeing them. After a few weeks they will subtly add Kolkos name, thereby establishing that "he didn't commit a crime" as the communities conclusion!!! (Nobody came to empty the boxes, which can be attributed to incompetence. I'm afraid however, that they are leaving them out there for the PR campaign, which is far more valuable in the long run then the few dollars in the box.)
I'm sorry to report, that apparently your blog is not widely read in Lakewood...
Even after you published that the פדיון שבוים is for Kolko, the sign is still up in two shuls that I visited over Shabbos!?!
I'm not sure what should be done next, but there is one thing I'm sure about. If these signs are allowed to linger for a while, the oilam will get used to seeing them. After a few weeks they will subtly add Kolkos name, thereby establishing that "he didn't commit a crime" as the communities conclusion!!! (Nobody came to empty the boxes, which can be attributed to incompetence. I'm afraid however, that they are leaving them out there for the PR campaign, which is far more valuable in the long run then the few dollars in the box.)
Schlesinger Twins: Is Dr. Schlesinger concerned about the welfare of his kids?
Dear All, May 11, 2012
As you know Mr Schlesinger cancelled my visit on Thursday because the children had a dentist appointment. I asked for a substitute visit to take place this Sunday. The visiting centre wrote me an email today lo inform me that Mr Schlesinger has refused a substitute visit this Sunday or at any other time.
The woman in charge informed me that Benji had an operation on his teeth but did not have any removed. She wrote that he developed a fever last night and there is no way he will be well enough to see me, his mother, on Sunday. No mention was made of Sammy's welfare but I have been denied access to him too.
lt is horrific that I had to be informed by a total stranger - after the event - that my child had an operation (the same thing happened when Sammy's 4 teeth were removed). I have no idea what Benji's operation was for. Not only did Mr Schlesinger not think it appropriate to inform me, as the child's mother about such a major incident in his life, but he has denied this poor young boy, not yet 3 years old, access to his mother during and after such a traumatic event.
When the children lived with me and I had to take them to hospital when they were ill, [ immediately called Mr Schlesinger to tell him and said that, as their father, of course he could come to the hospital to see them, which he did.
Just before Pesach this year, I went in desperation to the Child Welfare Agency in Vienna to beg them to help. The head of the Agency agreed that this situation is intolerable for the children and said we must both go Lo mediation to find a way of communicating with one another for the sake of the children. 1 immediately accepted this offer as I was willing to try everything possible to improve the situation.
I have already attempted communication with the children's father many times via email, and text messages but he just ignores me. When the children lived with met even suggested that we take them to the park together but he refused.
The head of the Agency made separate appointments for each of us with an independent mediator, under a free service offered by the government. I kept my appointment but Mr Schlesinger did not, even though he had agreed with her in a telephone conversation that he would attend. He sent a letter to the Agency to say that he had changed his mind as he did not consider the mediator to be 'qualified enough.' He suggested his own private mediator, which was a family run business of mediators/ lawyers and there would be significant costs involved.
The qualifications of his proposed mediator did not appear to be any better than the mediator I went to who has had over 20 years experience in family counselling and has a well respected position working for the State.
Shabbat Shalom and best wishes,
Beth Schlesinger
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