tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7309929059139673041.post524077586692904468..comments2024-03-29T12:21:24.976+03:00Comments on Daas Torah - Issues of Jewish Identity: Importance of husband being boss:Chesed l'AvrahamDaas Torahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07252904288544083215noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7309929059139673041.post-38875370935901424812013-11-11T08:47:41.582+02:002013-11-11T08:47:41.582+02:00ב. "כי ראה ה' בעניי" (בראשית כט, לב)...ב. "כי ראה ה' בעניי" (בראשית כט, לב) – 'בראובן אמר "כי ראה" ובשמעון אמר "כי שמע", לפי שמתחלה קודם שנולד ראובן היה מכה בה ומשנולד נמנע מלהכותה, ועל כן אמרה "כי ראה", ועדיין היה מקנתרה בדברים ומשנולד שמעון נמנע גם מזה, ועל כן אמרה "כי שמע", ועדיין לא היה מתחבר אליה וכשנולד לוי נתחבר אליה, על כן קרא שמו לוי' (פירוש הטור הארוך על התורה, מהדורת רי"ק רייניץ, ירושלים תשס"ו).YUnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7309929059139673041.post-25647471124634208532012-04-20T03:23:22.867+03:002012-04-20T03:23:22.867+03:00I once asked the Gaon and Mekubol Reb Shmuel Taube...I once asked the Gaon and Mekubol Reb Shmuel Taubenfeld zt"l to tell me the secret of Shalom Bayis. He relied, "In Kabbala, the wife is higher than the man." That is the secret. Rambam tells us also that the wife must honor his wife more than himself. The Zohar is filled with this idea, and the Heichal Brocho has a very great elaboration on the vast superiority of the left force over the right, female over male, in Korach. The right is white or silver and the left is gold. But this only holds true when the wife honors her husband properly. The female Schechina essence is not one that thrives with arrogance, as we find the story of the sun and the moon where the moon was aggressive and put down the sun and HaShem told the moon "go and diminish yourself."<br /><br />Put another way, marriage is not a partnership but a reciprocity, where each lives to serve the other. On my youtube.com/mons5555 videos, I emphasize the power of being a "slave" to family and the destruction of modern families over the refusal to serve others.Dovid Eidensohnhttp://www.getamarriage.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7309929059139673041.post-10221977213900145482012-04-19T23:55:28.635+03:002012-04-19T23:55:28.635+03:00If today, in the year 2012, we would be certain so...If today, in the year 2012, we would be certain someone was an Amaleiki, we would be *obligated* to kill him, his wife and his babies.Dovidnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7309929059139673041.post-23734900232663803532012-04-19T20:13:45.478+03:002012-04-19T20:13:45.478+03:00The mitzvah of killing amalek may be technically n...The mitzvah of killing amalek may be technically not a time-limited mitzvah, but in practice what happened was that amalekites blended in quickly with other populations and are completely indistinguishable. So we will never know who amalek really is. Now that amalek as a people is gone, the commandment to kill amalek takes on the symbolic meaning ascribed to it by many chassidic rabbis. For example, the Lubavitcher Rebbe (as summarized in the Gutnick edition chumash) says that today we kill amalek by cutting out any negative ideological influences which dampen our enthusiasm towards fulfilling mitzvot. <br /><br />Keep in mind that we believe in the afterlife (and reincarnation, except those few who deny the authenticity of kabbalah). Just because there were a few one-time events in which Hashem commanded the obliteration of an entire group does not mean genocide is a Torah value or that killing large groups of people is not morally problematic. For all we know, the souls of those killed may have proceeded directly to a great reward in heaven/gan eden or been reincarnated to have a full happy life. Another thing to keep in mind is that there is no mitzvah to believe in everything literally, even if the main hashkafic texts seem to understand something in Tanakh literally. It may be a mitzvah to trust in our sages, but....there is no last word in matters of hashkafa.yeshayanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7309929059139673041.post-53944271211065111032012-04-19T17:39:14.651+03:002012-04-19T17:39:14.651+03:00sure thing, do you know any amalekite babies?
I ac...sure thing, do you know any amalekite babies?<br />I actually don't think the torah would consider it a kiddush hashem to be jailed for killing amalekites. In fact since goyim are obligated to establish courts they are kind of obligated to stop us from killing amalekites. Now if we could establish our own state we could permit the killing of amalekites in our state. We could also declare war on any state that harbors amelekites. But we don't have our own state.nonenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7309929059139673041.post-64817465998496031672012-04-19T17:34:33.483+03:002012-04-19T17:34:33.483+03:00Would you fullfill your Mitzwah to kill 1000 Amale...Would you fullfill your Mitzwah to kill 1000 Amalekite babies, if you met them?batmelechnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7309929059139673041.post-74167112591679848652012-04-19T16:18:53.387+03:002012-04-19T16:18:53.387+03:00I am going to post the Pele Yoetz regarding hittin...I am going to post the Pele Yoetz regarding hitting children and wives. But he seems to be saying the opposite of what you are saying. do you have a different Pele Yoetz?Daas Torahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07252904288544083215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7309929059139673041.post-75687278822938787062012-04-19T16:16:01.516+03:002012-04-19T16:16:01.516+03:00You are dealing with apples and oranges. The quest...You are dealing with apples and oranges. The question of whether one person is the boss is not related to Avraham being given a direct command to listen to Sarah. That simply means that when you don't have such a command than she doesn't take priority. You other examples also are not relevant. Obviously even if the wives are subordinate it doesn't mean that they are unintelligent or insensitive - but the fact is it was up to their husbands to agree or disagree with themDaas Torahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07252904288544083215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7309929059139673041.post-60880277119919858932012-04-19T16:13:11.565+03:002012-04-19T16:13:11.565+03:00I gather you don't accept that Torah is true u...I gather you don't accept that Torah is true unless it meets with your approval?Daas Torahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07252904288544083215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7309929059139673041.post-61181040280293185402012-04-19T16:04:44.133+03:002012-04-19T16:04:44.133+03:00I think we should live up to the torah value of ge...I think we should live up to the torah value of genocide and find a few Amalekite babies we could kill.<br /><br />If we get jailed for it: no problem, it is martyrdom in the name of the Torah. The muslim "honor killers" show is that this should not deter us. Take an example from them. They even know how to work the system: they will send minors of age to do it, so that the prison sentence is shorter. (oh and avoid states with death penalty, while you are at it)batmelechnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7309929059139673041.post-16035390549663344662012-04-19T15:13:43.648+03:002012-04-19T15:13:43.648+03:00How about the Torah?
Hashem tells Avraham to list...How about the Torah?<br /><br />Hashem tells Avraham to listen to Sarah.<br /><br />Yitzchok is Mitzacheik with Rivkah.<br /><br />Yaakov takes Bilhah and Zilpah at the behest of his wives.<br /><br />We see that the wives of the Avos were accorded a status greater than house-slave and bed-mate. We see that Yitzchok felt it important to make his wife happy.Avihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15987913203857736139noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7309929059139673041.post-89435196229683702872012-04-19T09:47:34.164+03:002012-04-19T09:47:34.164+03:00simple question to my readers - what is the source...simple question to my readers - what is the source of knowing what marriage is about and what the goals that we value? If you want to claim that the Chesed L'Avraham and the Pele Yoetz etc were simply reflecting the values of their days and culture - than what are you doing differently? Are happiness, serial manogamy or even cohabiting now the acceptable values?<br /><br />Where is a Torah Jew supposed to get his guidance from?Daas Torahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07252904288544083215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7309929059139673041.post-2617794145376050362012-04-19T05:03:50.924+03:002012-04-19T05:03:50.924+03:00While I'm sure there are some people in the Or...While I'm sure there are some people in the Orthodox world who think it is all-important that a man is "boss" in the household -- and I would expect they overlap considerably with those who think men should be able to refuse a get without anyone giving him a hard time -- this is by no means the universal view. For example, the extremely popular best seller on shalom bayis by chassidic rosh yeshivah Rav Shalom Arush, B'Gan Shalom/Garden of Peace, contains not a single word to the effect that a man should be the boss in the household or that this is something of any importance. In fact, he even recommends that husbands have their wives be in complete charge of the household's finances.yeshayanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7309929059139673041.post-17015336191159144902012-04-19T01:16:01.568+03:002012-04-19T01:16:01.568+03:00Are you going to put up the Pele Yoetz about beati...Are you going to put up the Pele Yoetz about beating your wife and what her response should be? It is a reflection not of the Torah but the Culture around them as you will see in the Muslim Countries this type of talk is standard in the non Muslim cultures LESS so (and when there is the source is a Muslim Country Rav's Torah)YUASKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12859270654161319457noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7309929059139673041.post-75041781270764147742012-04-18T17:58:37.217+03:002012-04-18T17:58:37.217+03:00Actually I am even farther off - it was his great ...Actually I am even farther off - it was his great great grandfather<br /><br />^ Shem HaGedolim, Livorno 1774, p. 11b. (Available on Hebrewbooks.com.)In this passage, Haim Yosef David gives the following genealogy: Abraham Azulai --> Isaac Azualai --> Isaiah Azulai --> Isaac Zerahiah Azulai --> Haim Yosef David Azulai.Daas Torahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07252904288544083215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7309929059139673041.post-35257386313092215992012-04-18T17:42:07.687+03:002012-04-18T17:42:07.687+03:00Chesed L'Avraham is Chida's great grandfat...Chesed L'Avraham is Chida's great grandfather.No Historiannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7309929059139673041.post-59062633206283284352012-04-18T17:17:51.916+03:002012-04-18T17:17:51.916+03:00Actually, anyone who does not rely on this segula ...Actually, anyone who does not rely on this segula is in for a very, very rough marriage.Reuvennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7309929059139673041.post-34559452751507265072012-04-18T16:38:03.754+03:002012-04-18T16:38:03.754+03:00"For this is your wisdom and understanding in..."For this is your wisdom and understanding in the sight of the nations, who will say, 'What a wise and understanding nation...'"Sammynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7309929059139673041.post-69084744363877734372012-04-18T15:16:32.650+03:002012-04-18T15:16:32.650+03:00Anyone who relies on this "segulah" is i...Anyone who relies on this "segulah" is in for a very, very rough marriage.Avihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15987913203857736139noreply@blogger.com